I was just thinking, did we give the club a bum rap over the years, making it one of the worst places to meet someone? People like to say go to the gym, the library, the bookstore, etc..., but if you meet someone at one of these places who is deliberately trying to meet someone, nine times out of ten, that person will probably have more issues than the one you meet at a club. When I think back, I met just as many misfits outside the club, maybe worst. I remember when black people started calling the club the bar, giving it a cheap name. I think this came from white people, and I think we were trying to emulate them. When white people meant bar, they meant real bars, like small little spots where loose women hung out, where there was no room to dance, not like they could anyway. These were places where white guys would go to right off work looking for loose woman, similar to the places truck drivers would stop at, or similar to strip clubs... something else they practically tried to turn black night clubs into. It seems like we somewhere along the line let these places white people called bars, become synonyms with black dance clubs that most black singles go to on the weekends. Now I'm not trying to say the club was the perfect place, but I think we gave it a bigger taboo than it deserved back then, making it a place to look down on one another just for being there, and making it a place for people already in a relationship to chill and look down on others, or play games with people really trying to meet someone, or to cheat. However you did have that little crew who always stayed right at the bar in these clubs, and some of them may have been loose, but that didn't mean everybody in the club was there looking for a one-nighter, however that's the reputation these clubs had. I never met a girl in a club and had a one-nighter, and I don't know anyone who did. I'm not saying this kind of thing didn't happen in clubs, but I don't think it was really the norm. But everybody use to speak like it was. Even brothers I knew would say they were going to clubs looking for somebody to take home, knowing very well they were trying to find that special one. With all this in play, I guest the club scene really has become a bad spot to meet someone, because people come in with negativity from the start. And if it ain't negative, they will make it negative. It seems even-though we got this bar definition of a club from white people, white people when it came to them as a group, still distinguished between the bar and the club where they looked for that special someone. However that may have changed, because whatever they put out on us, always seem to boomerang back on them sooner or later.