Hello everyone. I am new here but I have a question. I am 21 years old and married. A lot of people say that's the mistake there but I don't agree. My question is that my husband and I have had problems every since week one of marriage. He is totally insecure and I have never had to deal with anyone that depends on me as much as he. When we were engaged, no one thought our relationship whould last. There was the age thing and then the fact that I'm black and he is white. He is the only white guy that I have ever dated. So I don't know if our race is causing the friction or if we are just not compatible. Let me give you example of the things that has happened. After my husband and I were married for 3 weeks, a friend (male) from high school called to congratulation me. The entire time I was on the phone with the guy I sat in front of my husband. After I got off the phone with the guy. My husband went off. Asking me if me and the guy ever dated and was I cheating on him. I told him that the guy was a close friend from high school. That I hadn't send him in over two years or talked to him in over a year. I also told my husband that he was tripping about nothing and I didn't understand his concern. That was one of the first arguments. Ever argument since has escalated in intensity. After being married for 8 months I am starting to think that I made a mistake marrying him. No for the question: Has anyone gone through this if you have what did you do?