I went to Kansas City not too long ago to visit some people. First, let me give you a back ground of it so it the situation I post will be more clearer: My aunt is one of them. She my dad's (whom doesn't want anything to do with his children) sister. I was not lucky to grow up with my family. So now that I'm a grown woman, every time I go back there, I hope to run into my biological family members. Okay, going back to the story, I went up to my aunt's job (she works at a motel) and we talked for a little while. We both agreed and made it clear that we were going to spend some actual quality time together that Saturday or Sunday, such as me going to visit her house before I head back home. Well Saturday came and she said she was on the boat gambling. So I thought "ok that's cool. we have tomorrow to hang out". The next day came, she said she couldn't make or gave me some type of what I felt was a phony excuse of why she can't see me. I went back home not even getting to spend the time with my aunt that I was hoping to spend. I was hurt but at the same I was kidding with her when I sent her a text, saying "It seems you didn't wanna see me at all" and then I was jokingly said that she "hurt my feelings". She texted me back, saying I am selfish and saying that just because she's an "older woman" doesn't mean she doesn't kick it like I do. Then she went on saying that "if a guy asked you out on a date, you would say yes to him too"... when i didn't even know she went on a date. All I knew was, we had plans to get together. Like I said earlier, I have not really seen my family since I was a child, and I have been trying to develop relationships with my family. First I tried with my biological father; turns out he doesn't want anything to do with me. Then I tried connecting with my brothers, we were in touch for a short period of time, but they keep vanishing and reappearing. Last I checked, my mom is in her own little world (drugs). Okay, maybe I got off the main subject. My main question is this: Based on that situation with my aunt, was I really selfish because of what I said? If so, I really need some insight on how, because my side of it is saying that I am just tired of what is supposed to be my family bailing out on folks and acting funny. Thanks to whoever took the time to read this post.