question 1- do you feel threatened when your mate checks out the opposite sex? do you people watch together? ladies, this question is specifically for you (i don't know very many men who will do this)...do you point out attractive women to your man? do you do this b/c you know he's going to look anyway? if not, then why? i'll go first.... when i have a mate i don't mind if he looks at beautiful women b/c i look too. however, i become annoyed if he's not discreet about admiring her beauty. in general, my mate looking at women does not bother me. women are so beautiful! question 2- how do you feel when someone else's mate admires you or your mate? when i have a mate he usually notices that women stare at me more than men but i miss this. i had one boyfriend say, "did you just see that lady? she almost tripped on the curb looking at you." if it's a brother with a white woman that's admiring me then it strikes a nerve and it really irritates me (don't know why...trying to figure it out). if it's a married/attached man...i get angry just b/c he's married. btw- i've been known to give my mate pictures of kitoy and serena LOL!