Black Relationships : Virgin call

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  1. Rain

    Rain Active Member MEMBER

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    ? Are there any virgins left. Allow me to put myself out there for a min. I am a virgin and will not have sexual inter-course until I am married.

    My reasons for waiting are

    1. I do not believe in giving my body to no man but the one I marry.
    I dont think it is okay for any other man.
    2. God
    3. I have four older sisters

    What are your reasons for waiting.

    Are there any guys waiting until marriage.
     
  2. A007

    A007 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Good luck on that call Rain.

    Very commendable......I wish I would have waited.
     
  3. ZeroGravity

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    I salute you Rain and Elmo ...

    it appears that in today's society, very few people are making the choice to refraim from having sex until marriage. If you don't mind me asking you both ... where do you get your strength from?

    home? strong spiritual base? your philosophies? .... what helped you fight the peer-pressure or just the sheer curiosity of sex, those teenage years? And the last question I would like to ask...I think there would be a strong physical presence (I could be wrong here) that you have to deal with, but do you find that a mental presence exist as well? Do you constantly have to be at a mental frame of mind or does that now comes second nature?

    I again, I salute you both.
     
  4. Rain

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    ZeroGravity, My strength comes from all the places you named.

    At a very early age I decieded I have a mind and I will use it. I was always into being a leader of my own. The main strength is learning from the big family I have four older sisters from now 23-38 and a brother 21. In my teenage years I was actually into sports mainly basketball so I really didn't have time to be hot in the a** lol.

    As for the physical presence I really don't have to deal with that much because I consider myself to be a spiritual being living in the physical world here for one reason only. Now I won't lie it is times when I slip and when I am with a guy I have to know where to draw the line and that is a reasurrence of me not needing to be their in the first place.
     
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    Rain Active Member MEMBER

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    Thank you A007.

    Why didn't you wait.
     
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    ELMO I have a afro too that I have to take care of. lol
     
  7. ZeroGravity

    ZeroGravity Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Good for you Rain ...

    Stay strong.
     
  8. Rain

    Rain Active Member MEMBER

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    I'll try my best

    Peace.
     
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    Thandiwe Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    does "born again" virgins count?! :D

    seriously, there are some left. though i'm not one f them...

    how old are you?
     
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    Good Question

    Rain--

    I am not sure why I didn't wait. I may have been that it had never been made an opiton.

    My mother and father were never married and I only had younger sisters.

    My older cousins and my friends were all engaging, so I thought it was just a part of growing up. I never got a speech from my mother (thats who I lived with) about staying a virgin. We didn't go to church...so I didn't hear it from a pastor or member. Basically, I didn't know that ANYONE waited.

    The answer to your question is ...I didn't wait because I was ignorant.

    That's not to say that I would have been strong enough to withstand peer presure IF i knew that waiting was an option. I seemed to stay away from drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes after getting my mother's opinion on all of those. So...maybe i would have stayed a virgin if i thought that my mother wanted me to.

    I wish I would have waited because sex only confuses things before marriage.
     
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