Discussion in 'Black Relationships' started by CarrieMonet, Oct 1, 2004.
What is the one thing you wish the opposite sex would understand about YOU?
who i am and what i am ......seem like this always get cross up about me
and many don't understand my style or heart.
I wish brothers would understand that a smile is not consistent with an invitation to my bedroom (sorry, but it's been overwhelming lately)
Islander...you comment might lend some clarity to a discussion that took place last week or so titled "Are we black women doing something wrong?". Brothers couldn't understand why a sister would sometimes smile or say hi to a white guy and not a brother. Isaiah used a scenario of sisters sitting on the lap and smiling at this big guy in class and would not do that with ahh, boys/men that they might be attractive to (something like that because they felt less threatened by the big guy.
I came to the same realization that you mentioned years ago...and since then I do not get offended if I pass a sister, smile and speak and do not receive the same gesture in return...and yes, i have been guilty of taking a smile from a sister to use that as an introduction other than a simple "hello", so I know where you're coming from. You have reminded me of that lesson...thanks.
It's odd that my answer to CarrieMonet's question is very similar to your...I would want sisters to understand that because we smile and speak to our sisters does not mean that it's a precursor of us wanting to go to bed with them. :luvv:
That I am not trying to get into their draws or have multiple partners because I have nice looks.
I Wish that My highly intellectual goddesses would get a chance to realize that I am just like them, instead of stereotyping me for a dumb athelete and cutting me off.
I wish that someone would understand that their sex has no power over me, God made Porn, A Dvd Player, Grease and Lotion and other oils for a reason.
Oops my bad Carrie u said one and I said a million, lol.
that i'm not dumb. i'm not easy. that i'm pretty sensitive and if i have a good argument, i will argue . and i don't like being annoyed. and i take education seriously and am not going to let someone bring me down. and i'm not a punch bag so don't even ATTEMPT to lay your hand on me .
that's about it! other than that, i have no problems. :grin:
That you need to give unconditional, genuine love to me in order for the relationship to work with me. I know when someone is giving 100%...I'm not stupid. Also, that just because I am very affectionate and sexual with the woman I'm with, doesn't man all I want is sex. I am a good person and very capable of having a relationship if we just be honest and love eachother without all the silly games and test.
~Understand that although I come off as a very serious person, I am also very silly.
~Understand that just because I like to hang out with you doesn't mean I want a relationship with you...a game of pool or golf doesn't make you an automatic ideal mate.
~Understand that I'm not your ex...judge me by my actions, don't judge me by someone else's faults.
~Understand that I love deep, I don't use that word unless I intend to keep you around for a long time, with that said, don't take my love for granted.
~Understand that if I say I'm not ready for a relationship - you should TRUST ME on that.
~Understand that taking time to get in my head, captivating my mind is the fastest way to my heart.
understand that I am who I am....and dont try to change me.....
thas the biggest one right now....I be back to add more
I just wish women would understand, period. I also wish they understood that I am a good man who is worthy of a good woman, and I'm available and waiting.
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