In my clubbing days, when I was in my low and mid twenties, I used to go out with girlfriends to clubs a lot. One particular friend of mine, Carrie is about 5’8”, slim, with a Caucasian phenotype and body (full-breasts, slim hips) and skin the color of light wheat. I’m 2 inches shorter, with more brown in my skin. I look more like a North African woman who looks African and I have a more proportional build. Both Carrie and I looked sleek when we got dressed up. Sometimes, darker, chubbier, girlfriends with so-called “strong African” features would go with us to the clubs, also looking good..
We could always predict who would be approached first by guys to dance or offered a drink. Carrie first. Then me. Then the darker, plumper sister. Now, I didn’t care because I got enough attention. But the darker, thick sista often didn’t get asked to dance until sometimes the record was almost over or not at all. Carrie or I, would sometimes act like we were too tired to dance just so the guy would ask the other sista since all of us were paying the taxi fare. So I really understand why some chocolate sistas resent lighter skinned sistas. And I hate it when people try to deny the reality of those sistas and tell them that we are all the same and that a woman’s looks don’t matter that much. Yeah, Right!!!!!
I’m older now but things have not changed much. I know that a lot of brothas are with thick or outright fat chocolate sistas with “strong, African features.” But I often wonder WHO would those men be with if they were rich and powerful and could pick and choose ANY woman they wanted. I really wonder if those guys and a lot of you guy here would prefer those plump, or fat chocolate sistas lying around your swimming pools and yachts.
Fess up brothas.