Black Relationships : Unattractive women

karmashines

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There's been a lot of talk about black women not choosing suitable mates... overlooking a good man for Mr. Pretty Boy or Mr. Bad Boy. A man who may be fat, skinny, or in some way less attractive or less 'thuggish' seem to miss out.

Well, how many of the men on this board would go for a woman that is unattractive? Someone who is overweight, or too skinny, or has a very plain or even ugly face? Some would argue that some of these women could be good mates just as much as a man in a similar predicament.
 
karmashines said:
There's been a lot of talk about black women not choosing suitable mates... overlooking a good man for Mr. Pretty Boy or Mr. Bad Boy. A man who may be fat, skinny, or in some way less attractive or less 'thuggish' seem to miss out.

Well, how many of the men on this board would go for a woman that is unattractive? Someone who is overweight, or too skinny, or has a very plain or even ugly face? Some would argue that some of these women could be good mates just as much as a man in a similar predicament.

I don't know too many men that will date a woman who he feels is unattractive. However, what every man thinks is attractive widely varies. There are just as many men who like big women as there are who like thin women. A woman who one man finds to be ugly or plain, another man might think is beautiful. In addition there are many men who concentrate more on a woman's body than her face (although the opposite also exists). One important thing to consider is that just because a man says he wants an attractive woman, that doesn't mean he is looking for a supermodel or a music video dancer. When most guys say they want an "attractive woman", they usually mean a woman who is attractive to him. That can be (and often is) any woman.
 
panafrica said:
I don't know too many men that will date a woman who he feels is unattractive. However, what every man thinks is attractive widely varies. There are just as many men who like big women as there are who like thin women. A woman who one man finds to be ugly or plain, another man might think is beautiful. In addition there are many men who concentrate more on a woman's body than her face (although the opposite also exists). One important thing to consider is that just because a man says he wants an attractive woman, that doesn't mean he is looking for a supermodel or a music video dancer. When most guys say they want an "attractive woman", they usually mean a woman who is attractive to him. That can be (and often is) any woman.

True indeed.
 
panafrica said:
I don't know too many men that will date a woman who he feels is unattractive. However, what every man thinks is attractive widely varies. There are just as many men who like big women as there are who like thin women. A woman who one man finds to be ugly or plain, another man might think is beautiful. In addition there are many men who concentrate more on a woman's body than her face (although the opposite also exists). One important thing to consider is that just because a man says he wants an attractive woman, that doesn't mean he is looking for a supermodel or a music video dancer. When most guys say they want an "attractive woman", they usually mean a woman who is attractive to him. That can be (and often is) any woman.

I totally agree with Brother Pan this is a very subjective thing…though there are plenty of shallow Black men who want video dancers or runway models on their arms or in bed…In a broader sense, Black men views of what is beauty is lot more broader than the general American idea. That’s why we could appreciate an Aretha Franklin or Chaka Kahn-type back in the day (thickness) as well as the more petite ideas of beauty. White culture has a more limited allowance for female beauty…a thick white woman rarely has a place in Hollywood or in the music industry…

I don’t think "some" sisters are into looks as much as they are into image and the “semblance of power” (thug, corporate, preacher, player, etc.).

Now all men and women, of all ethnicities and so-called races, can get caught up on looks and image…its just becomes a social and cultural issue when it becomes overly pathological.
 

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