Unassisted Childbirth

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  1. phynxofkemet

    phynxofkemet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    hotep,

    I've been having dreams of delivering my baby at home. I came across this website : http://unassistedchildbirth.com / http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/uc/truth.html
    and it seems encouraging. I've watched videos of ucbirth and they seem to go very smoothly.

    I trust hospitals like I trust the police department! The combination of profit and medicine is a concoction of evil.

    What I am wondering is if anyone here has witnessed/delivered or supported an chiildbirth at home? If so would you share your experience with me? Thanks

    I have come across a new magazine called Black Woman and Child, I'm going to subscribe to it asap, it looks good

    http://www.nubeing.com/bwac/index.htm
     
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    Hospitals are also full of disease ;)

    I gave birth at home in South Africa. Couldn't imagine doing it any other way. no stress, no strangers, my own bed/food/stuff..

    In Holland it is the norm to give birth at home.

    I've assisted/witnessed about a dozen births - in and out of medical facilities - the home births win hands down when it comes to comfort of mother, child, and family.
     
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    Where are y'all to help me deliver this next one?

    Ladies, they insisted on inducing me 3 weeks early with my son, because of "hypertension". My BP had never even been up until that day -- we'd had some issues at home and I'd been at work all day! So my BP WAS up.
    Anyway, after ONLY 10 hours a nurse came in and said "You're at 8." She got the doctor who comes and says "No you're still at 6, and you've been at 6 for 3 hours. The labor's not progressing; we need to do a c-section."
    I HAD NO SUPPORT yall! NO ONE was on MY side.
    I didn't believe her; I felt she was tryna get MORE money off my insurance. I felt she just wanted to cut somebody. She started telling me the baby was SUDDENLY breach and his head was bumping my cervix and that was swelling my cervix...

    but the NURSE said I was at EIGHT.

    As I said, I had NO ONE on my side. So after two hours, I had to give in.

    I was VERY upset after it and, even now, 16 months later, I'm still pretty bitter about it. My stomach muscles are NOT the same as they used to be; after baby #1 I bounced back (with exercise and whatnot). With this one no matter how many excercises I do, I have a pooch. I STILL have pain on my scar once in a while.

    And I'm pregnant again.

    I'm looking for a doctor who will ALLOW me to try a VBAC. After having had the c-section I'm afraid to have it at home.

    But I STRONGLY support having babies at the HOUSE. My MIL is from St. Lucia and all but one of her babies were born at home.

    I always wanted that.

    If that's what you do, I so commend you!

    Don't let these doctors and hospitals ruin it for you.


    Shalom
     
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    In a hospital you are nothing but a number :)
     
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    phynxofkemet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    My immediate family does not support this choice, and they are trying to scare me into believing I'm putting the baby at risk. I've straightened my backbone and told them to back off, in no uncertain terms. My decision is made from a place of intuition, and information about the medical practices inherent in hospitals. Now, I would employ a midwife, but in this province that runs around $3000-$4000 - not in my current budget.

    What I'd like to know, maybe from you Zullie is if you recommend any prep material. This will be my first delivery and I'm sure there's a few things to know in advance.

    Thanks
     
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    Hello ladies,

    If u have insurance why dont u try a birthing center. I heard that they are very comfortable just like home and family oriented and the women treat you like family.
     
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    phynxofkemet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    The birthing centre, is in Alberta under the directive of midwives - which I would consider except here again there are a few considerations. For example they are under law required to treat the mother in much the same way as physicians, so for example if you don't dilate in the required amount of time, they must by law call an ambulance and send you to the hospital. There are a few other guidelines they must follow that could send a woman directly into the hands of the hospital, even though they are not emergency situation.

    A midwife in this province is not covered under our healthcare system, and costs between 3000-4000. From what I heard from a friend in Florida, that's inexpensive. But right now, I haven't a private health care program to cover the cost.

    But thanks for the suggestion! The birthing centre was our first idea.
     
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    change of mind

    Well, I've been doing some more reading and I've had a change of mind.
    If I can get the midwife and go to the labor centre I will, if not, I'll prepare myself for the hospital. There are so many many things that can happen during this process and now that I'm half way there I tell you I want to make sure this boy comes out healthy and blessed.

    Circumstances can still improve that would allow for a home birth and a midwife, and I can still pray for that, but in the meantime, I'm going to prepare myself for the eventuality of him being delivered by doctors.
    Yep, I got spooked from what I was reading.

    :SuN018:
     
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