Black Relationships : Ugly?

intolerant

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I asked my boyfriend if he thinks that I am ugly and he responded, "No. And even if I thought that you were, I wouldn't say it or rub it in your face." So I am concered whether he thinks that I am ugly. Just like I ask him from time to time if he thinks that I am fat and he tells me the same quote, "No. And if I thought you were, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it." But back in January, he got mad at me and called me a fat dog. Should I be self-consious and worried? Thanks.
 
what about the name he called me

But called me a FAT DOG! I am a heavyset woman and he got mad at me and called me that name. I have gained a little weight, but I am not so big that I can't get off my behind and exercise and do things around the house. So that it why I feel insecure about this. It may sound pity, but I have to follow this up.
 
Hey intolerant,

Wow, he called u a fat doq....interesting... Did he just come out and call u a "fat dog" because u just kept constantly asking him about how u looked and he just got tired of hearing it, or did he say"YOU FAT DOG!!!!!!!!!"(anger!!!)

I think u really need to ease up on how u think u look. I understand because sometimes we do go into the "am I attractive" phase..However, it all starts from the inside, if u don't feel attractive its gonna show on the exterior. So definitely work on accepting yourself, and if u feel like u are "fat" maybe u should try doing some exercises, but I would concentrate mainly on the inner self. Cause if u don't feel attractive inside, it doesn't matter how many people tell u that u are attractive because u won't believe it! So stop concerning yourself so much with what others think and start concentrating on what u think and how yor mind works...You'll work it out, I'm sure you'll find a way... Peace..
 
Originally posted by Mahogany_Brown
Hey intolerant,

Wow, he called u a fat doq....interesting... Did he just come out and call u a "fat dog" because u just kept constantly asking him about how u looked and he just got tired of hearing it, or did he say"YOU FAT DOG!!!!!!!!!"(anger!!!)

I think u really need to ease up on how u think u look. I understand because sometimes we do go into the "am I attractive" phase..However, it all starts from the inside, if u don't feel attractive its gonna show on the exterior. So definitely work on accepting yourself, and if u feel like u are "fat" maybe u should try doing some exercises, but I would concentrate mainly on the inner self. Cause if u don't feel attractive inside, it doesn't matter how many people tell u that u are attractive because u won't believe it! So stop concerning yourself so much with what others think and start concentrating on what u think and how yor mind works...You'll work it out, I'm sure you'll find a way... Peace..

No, you don't understand. I did not keep on asking him if he thought I was fat. We got into an argument about something that had to do with him cheating on me back '02 and he got angry and called me a fat dog. And now he is saying that he did not mean it and that I am not fat. Other people never said that I was fat. I don't have to weigh 110 lbs to be considered as healthy. Don't you agree?
 
I do exercise

Originally posted by kemetstry
:cool:

If it'll make you feel better about yourself, go run a few laps.
But trust me, this is an insecurity attack

I do excercise and I still look good. I ride my back every morning and evening. I take walks in the park. It is a lot of things I have been doing. I have been losing weight. At Christmas time, that is the time of the year when people usually gain weight and I lost weight instead. I did not pig out. I ate pretty much, but I still lost weight. I don't sit around the house all day like he does. He can't call me fat. He is starting to look like he has titties.
 

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