Black Relationships : True or false. Dudes must go thru a "playa" stage and females must go thru a....

[MsInterpret]

True or false. Dudes must go thru a "playa" stage and females must go thru a "hoochie" stage.

A "playa" stage meaning that man must go through a stage where he can have alot of female options. Usually in his 20's.

A "hoochie" stage is where women know they are desirable and do things to attract attention. Usually happens in the 20's too.

If people dont go thru or complete this stage they will repeat it sometime later on in life, hence the "hot mamas" in the clubs and older cats trying to look young. A so called midlife crisis.

Agree or disagree? Comments?

False

You don't have to go through those stages...that's a choice.

My guy didn't go through those stages and he is a great man....His reason for not being a "playa" was because he wouldn't any man to treat his mother that way or his daughter, so he feels that he has to lead by example so that his daughter will find a good man.

If people don't go through or complete it then they will repeat it later on in life? Some folks consistently repeat it after have gone through these stages, then it's no longer a stage it then becomes for real, and then find it is hard to fall out
Some of them end up having kids and then the kids see the mother or father behaving in such a manner and the kids become "see papa-do/mama-do, I do"

 

[Mikha'el]

Ahhh someone has peep tariq nasheed i see

I've heard his podcast about this many times since i used to have em

But in all i find that such a stage is dependent on many aspects...one's maturity level and where one is in their personal lives...some go through this by choice...there are those who like their freedom and live accordingly....n there are those who have matured quicker

i'm in the age bracket tariq describes where such a stage is to occur in men yet i nvr went thru this....i nvr was the player type though i wasn't one who was tryna commit to any one person either....in fact i've never committed in part because i enjoyed my freedom untill now and i'm very picky about who i would commit to...i dnt find this full proof but can see where men & women would go thru such a phase in their lives...it varies