Black Relationships : True or false. Dudes must go thru a "playa" stage and females must go thru a....

[360]

i have known women who just liked to screw

no more than a young lady hot and sassy smelling their own panties

LOLz@you two

As far as this question, no. This lifestyle/mentality is the result of programming.

 

[blkbutterfly41]

True or false. Dudes must go thru a "playa" stage and females must go thru a "hoochie" stage.

A "playa" stage meaning that man must go through a stage where he can have alot of female options. Usually in his 20's.

A "hoochie" stage is where women know they are desirable and do things to attract attention. Usually happens in the 20's too.

If people dont go thru or complete this stage they will repeat it sometime later on in life, hence the "hot mamas" in the clubs and older cats trying to look young. A so called midlife crisis.

Agree or disagree? Comments?

IMHO, False. People do what they are taught to do.


Kids are exposed to sex very early and not exposed to loving relationships that are visible and long term. Kids are learning from other kids. Not by people that know how to parent, guide, and teach by leading by that example.
Kids do not learn my repatitious conversations but they learn by what they see their parents do. Parents are their very first teachers. Even the absent parent.


Every video has sexual overtures. The music and media is demeaning and makes pimping and whor*** glamourous lifestyles. And that's what they imitate and some grow out of it and too many stay there.

So do every male go thru the player stage and every female go thru the "hoochie" stage. No

But they behave that way because of the low standard society sets with the image of verses the reality of. In short, We buy it , we eat it , and we make it happen.

My 2 cents

Peace

 

[Ankhur]

The sisters made the choice regarding this , not the men

Women, control the world not the men.

the PM of China's wife
the Sauds, hundred wives
Dick Cheney's wife,
Rockeffelor's wife
The Baron Rohschild's wife,
George Soros wife and mistresses
Kissingers wife and mistresses
and Michelle Obama

have more power then all the armies, nuclear and biological wepons in the world, or satelite

just by saying yes dear tonight

or not in the mood or I have a headache.

Women determine the way they should or should not be approached and it is in our urban culture that the Black woman demands
GAME!!!!

Plain and simple; our women demand good lines, good rap above all else,
and that is the fact that every Black boy learns from 13 to manhood.

More then anything in life the most important thing for the Black male to learn regarding social skills is

A GOOD RAP

and the fact of the matter is the Playas as one calls it have the best rap, plain and simple

that is the way things are

Let's be honest as adults and every man here can attest to this.

Women are not attracted to lonely men they are atracted to men who already have someone, because a lonely man gives off a negative vibe,
but when you have someone your internal joy attracts others,

hey we lived with polygamy for over 20 thousand years until it was stopped 400 years ago,
maybe that was the natural way of things and maybe we will return to that as a matter of survival, when one looks at the ratio of women to men, who are not encarcerated, strung out or gay.

 

[360]

In my humble opinion, random hunching is not at all like entering into a union with several people.

Random hunching is not at all like having several relationships.

Random hunching is not at all like entertaining chemistry.

Our traditional practices have nothing to do with this kind of behavior/mentality/lifestyle and those who live this way are in the minority.

JMO

 

[blkbutterfly41]

Women, control the world not the men.

the PM of China's wife
the Sauds, hundred wives
Dick Cheney's wife,
Rockeffelor's wife
The Baron Rohschild's wife,
George Soros wife and mistresses
Kissingers wife and mistresses
and Michelle Obama

have more power then all the armies, nuclear and biological wepons in the world, or satelite

just by saying yes dear tonight

or not in the mood or I have a headache.

Women determine the way they should or should not be approached and it is in our urban culture that the Black woman demands
GAME!!!!

Plain and simple; our women demand good lines, good rap above all else,
and that is the fact that every Black boy learns from 13 to manhood.

More then anything in life the most important thing for the Black male to learn regarding social skills is

A GOOD RAP

and the fact of the matter is the Playas as one calls it have the best rap, plain and simple

that is the way things are

Let's be honest as adults and every man here can attest to this.

Women are not attracted to lonely men they are atracted to men who already have someone, because a lonely man gives off a negative vibe,
but when you have someone your internal joy attracts others,

hey we lived with polygamy for over 20 thousand years until it was stopped 400 years ago,
maybe that was the natural way of things and maybe we will return to that as a matter of survival, when one looks at the ratio of women to men, who are not encarcerated, strung out or gay.

I actually agree with your stance on poly.

But is it "rap or game " or Do women naturally just stimulate differently ??


Men are no doubt more visual. And considering we all go through many different stages of life. Does that hold true for life ?? I agree also that our power has been and always have been in our femininity. But At 18 we may have went for the rap or game. But at 36. Do you think most women will go for that ?? Same for men, he is taught early on to get the girl, his game must be time, ( Which promotes lies and deception as well ) because the dude with the better game will get the girl. But Does it stay that way ??

And it's not to place blame because women are more competitive as well. Which both in my opinion are destructive in relationships. And puts sex in a position to dominate future troubles in this society more so amongst us.

Why ?? Because people are having more sex early on and way before they really get to know each other. Sex clouds vision and judgement for both. There nothing sadder then seeing a forty year old man or woman, Playing that role.

But good observation. But that's what I think. What do you think. When we take things out of its natura lorder , we get chaos and added confusion.

You have a great one, Peace