Black People : Too Much Sex Talk?

Discussion in 'Black People Open Forum' started by Destee, Jan 7, 2005.

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Too Much Sex Talk?

  1. Yes

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  2. No

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  1. Destee

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    Hello Family,

    I've noticed a "rash" of sexually oriented topics / discussions in both the Sisters and the Brother's forums. While i've not looked recently, i'd imagine that it is in the Relationships forum as well.

    Is there a such thing as too much sex talk from grown folk?

    I mean, i could understand if we were finding these discussions in the Teen Forum, as they probably have less experience and more questions regarding this topic ... they might be seeking advice, wisdom, direction, and guidance ... but ... it's happening in the "grown folk forum" :eeek: ???!!!

    What comes to mind is the menstruation thread, and how it was asked, do you engage in sexual intercourse during this time, and if not, why?!!! :puke: I mean, gosh, are all topics worthy of open discussion in public, decent, places?!!! Is there nothing sacred and private?!! This is just one, i'm not "picking" on it persay, just providing an example.

    If the "adults" are talking this way, choosing so many of these as topics of discussion, what example are we providing for the youth watching us?

    I've been called ... hmmmm ... what did you call me Brother James?! ... i can't remember ... some word that implies chastity (or worse)! :) Well, i was called that! So, maybe it's just me. I've gotten older, more mature, and perhaps lost touch with the world and all the kinkiest of things that can be done ... ?! ... maybe ...

    But for real, it does concern me that as i browse the Sisters and Brother's forum, far too many of the more recent threads are about sex ... when we have so many issues facing us and our communities, that have absolutely nothing to do with sex ... it's just not how i envisioned those forums.

    Is it just me or are we having a whole bunch of sexual discussions up in here? Are they all necessary, or should some of that be discussed privately (with whomever you please)? Do we want to consider the youth in this community and the message that we are sending them? Are we sending the wrong message, or am i just ... aahhhhh ... that's the word Brother James called me ... a prude! ... am i just a prude?!!!!

    Please vote in the poll above ... i want to know if i'm alone on this or if something needs to be done!

    Thanks a Bunch!

    Signed ... Oversexed @ Destee's!

    :heart:

    Destee
     
  2. panafrica

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    Destee:

    If memory serves correct, I believe brother James called you a "prude"!
     
  3. Destee

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    That's right Brother Pan ... he did ... he is guilty !!! :court:

    So i'm thinking there may be some truth to that statement, and in light of this topic, i could be totally off the mark ... seeking the Family's opinion on this one!

    :heart:

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    i don't remember. :angel1:
     
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    maybe there should be a separate sex talk forum.
    that would segregate(!?) the sex out of the other places.
    maybe you could make it off limits to the kiddies?
     
  6. Sekhemu

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    yea , you're right about that Destee, this is a little alarming. To each his own, to some degree. but the sexual threads seem to be feeding to a lot of sensationalism.
     
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    People do have their interest and curiousity. Maybe brother James does have a point, a separate forum might be necessary. However it can't be no holds barred, down right dirty, because that is against the culture of this forum...hmm, more thought might be required for this one.
     
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    Black folks just need to grow up... in more ways than one...


    I find this statement a little disturbing, because if the adults can’t intelligently talk about sex or maturely handle their sexuality than how can we expect teenagers to deal with it or learn from adults. The ideal that teens can talk about sex and adults can’t is sort of backwards.

    One of the problems with American society is that it has always been too puritanical…usually pornography and sexual deviation goes wild (secretly and discretely) in societies that can’t deal with their sexuality. There is a book called “Reefer Madness” that sort of deals with the moral contradictions and hypocrisy found in America's
    prudish and very puritanical society.

    We need to find a way to be comfortable with our sexuality, so the teens don’t think that sex is done in some sort of strange vortex where there are no rules or cultural ideas.

    The messages they receive about sex through Rap lyrics and videos, make almost anything said at Destee.com seem like child’s play.

    I wasn’t that crazy about the thread that dealt with menstruation, but I don’t want the discussion of that subject to counteract a free and mature platform were adults can openly opine and not feel the constraints of hypocrisy.

    Compared to other cultures, Americans have of the biggest sexual hang-ups in the world, but at the same time supports a billion dollars in sexual consumption, from pornography to sexual devices, and now women, are making up a large portion of these consumers.

    We need to help our youth demystify sex and take there eyes off their Rap mentors and be very honest with them, about our own proclivities.

    Sex is not dirty or evil. It is sacred. And if sacred things can’t be discussed or enjoyed freely among adults, then what’s left. Yatzee?


    Peace and Love,

    Brother Sun :cool:
     
  9. Sekhemu

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    I agree with your comments for the most part? but It seems that many of the sex threads are amounting to not much more than trivial pursuits. I don't know that teenagers can learn much from the context and title of these threads
     
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    i support this position.
     
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