Black Relationships : This would be to good to be treu (could be could be not) but how do i aproach her?

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  1. LibertyLady

    LibertyLady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    two day ,s ago sumthing weird happend.......
    i,m not shure where it is leading to but....


    I think it was a week ago or two weeks i went out with my sister moham..
    we went to this concert of arrested development and when we went home
    we took the nightbus and there i saw my neighbour who also lives in my appartment on the same floor ...
    It is a studant complex so you share a kitchin together ....
    Now and than you talk with youre other neighbours...
    This girl i met in the nightbus when i was with my sister moham is a nice girl and i talk with her a lot and sumthimes also intemate stuff......So i was glad to see her.ANd this time she was shinging and happy ...and it was clear cause this man was sitting next to her.......
    And for us it was clear why she was shining and stuff.....
    I asked her how was youre vacation ?she said good ........i went to italy alone....... and to day,s before i left ""I MET HIM "' .....she met her love...... Right on we said (moham and me ).She is crazy in love and we are happy for her ....later we talked about the concert we went to ...and than we all got out and went home...


    Now........two day,s ago ,,,
    Me and my other neighbourMan were standing in tha kitchin cooking and the
    Love of the Woman neighbour who my sister moham and i met in tha bus came walking in...
    Now she had already told me that their connection was so good that the next week after she came back to holland he wanted to come to holland to be with his love
    (now isnt that beautifull :love: )

    So we curius (my neighbour and me )
    And we asked where he came from and i first thought that he was italian..
    but than we heard his accent...
    Than he said I,m from new zeeland ......
    and this was strange but i immidialty said ....
    wauw thats nice ...........................


    .....


    I have a grandpa living there whom i never met .....

    Whom my mom never met ......


    the father of my mom........




    than he said...

    well new zeeland is a small communaty...


    ...


    i said mmm ok but .......


    (started to giggle nervus ,,,,didnt understand why)


    but there are a lot of people ....

    Than i said ....


    He lives there and had a family and stuff......



    than he was quiet ......


    Than i asked him..


    Is youre father close......?


    (sumthing strong inside started to ask these question to this strange person)



    He became quiet....and said "'well we are close ...we are good "'


    kee ...


    than he became more quiet and than said ........


    ""But i have a sister and brother i didnt know a bout, whom i dont know ""




    me .... :jawdrop:




    me.... naw that could still not mean anything :nono:

    new zeeland is big there are manny people with hidden secrets ....


    or.... :jawdrop:



    Than i asked him...."'was he a sailor "" ( cause that was wat i knew a little bit and that he traveled around there world a roaming person)....



    Than he said .....weelll mmm no ......



    but...... When my mom met him he worked at the harbor ......(shippinng)




    me.... :idea:


    really.....?



    Than he said mmm interessting.....

    i said ..yeah me to.....


    Than he told me that because of his mom told him he knew this ....
    cause his father does not knoe that he knows...
    He said my parrents are devorced and that he is not going to ask his father about his secret his unknown brother and sister and he things that he should told him and should tell him hissself...

    But he would like to know tough who there are and were they are....

    I told him that my mom would like to know to ...
    I dont know how she feels about it now..cause tha last time she tried to search for him or find him( along time ago)..i believe that they or he shut the door somewhere..
    so she was dissapionted...

    but in a way i believe if there was a change she still would wanted to know more about her halfbrothers and sister but ......the father himself i dont know..

    The thing now is that i was planned to get more information ....
    He told me that his father was Bitish.......like from england...and i was not shure were my grandpa came from..
    so i was going to asked that to my grandma first wich was of course is not easy to it bringsback memory,s .....cause he came in her life and just left like that with no reason explenation......left her with a child.....


    So i asked my grandma.....
    and thank god she responded ok....she said that this all could not mean anything (i know to but i have already experianced some miracles in my life that people would not believe ,but its normal when you know how big and mighty god is and what he can do) but that it was interessting......


    I asked her Where did grandpa came from...
    She told me "''from holland "'
    than i tought ok its not him.......

    but than she told me that he traveled around tha world and that he lived
    for a long time in england ............ :idea:


    and that he was married there....


    and had also two kids there.......


    :oops: ...



    Than i tought this is enough to aproah mom...
    cause i have to if we want to find out more ...
    cause she has a picture of him when he was young.....
    if i have that i could show it to this guy to see if he sees anything ...
    From what i can remember i saw that picture when i was young ...and i now have flashbacks ......of that picture and when i look at this young guy ......

    i would think ......



    could be ...
    could be not...





    but how do i aproach my mom sinds this is such a sensetive subject :( ?


    if i dont telll her about this she would get angry afterwards ofcourse..


    and ofcourse i tell her but how....


    aspeccialy when its not shure.....




    :(
     
  2. MANASIAC

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    Sounds like she met that person of her dreams. I hope he does not turn out to be a nightmare.
     
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    is there a question there?

    BTW - i once lived in Amsterdam for a minute
     
  4. LibertyLady

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    I<M not finished NO This could be a remarkleble unbelievable story (or not)...i just put little pieces by pieces .....here to save it cause sumthimes i type a lot and than i wanted to post it and than its all gone...




    and yes there is a question..



    Hi brothers :heart:
     
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    Now wouldn't that be amazing if that is your uncle Sis! It's no at all impossible. The creator blesses us in ways we can't even fathom.

    As for mom, I guess you can start out by saying you have been thinking about her brother lately. Get a feel of her reaction. Let your instinct guide you sis. You will know where to take it from there.

    In the mean time :jumping: :jumping: Good Luck! It would be wonderful to here that he is in fact a relative.

    Looking forward to hearing the outcome of it all. Keep me posted sis!
     
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    DNA??????????????????
     
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    I always say...it's a small world. Good luck on your search.
     
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    wow this is exciting....good luck :spinstar:
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    whewwwwwwwwwwwwww!! kinda like wow ! love to know what happen
    here heavy tale to dis
     
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