Many times I hear women say that there is a shortage of eligible, good, heterosexual, black men. Many believe the good ones are either taken or gay. The fact is that this is true only to the degree of expectations that women have for who they consider "good" black men to be. Women are leaving, passing up, blowing off, and dissing "good" black men one day and saying there is a shortage the next. First, let us TRY to define a "good" man. As I am sure there will be differences in opinion, I will include the charactoristics that are highest on the list. A good man is (in no certain order): single (for the purpose of this post), honest, loyal, secure (mentally), a good friend, intelligent, considerate, strong, fun, and employed. Now, I get an agreement from almost everyone woman presented with this list, however the differences come from PERSONAL PREFERENCE. These include, but are not limited to: tall, dark or light skinned, handsome, has money, has a college degree, has mucscles, is thin, is cool, has prestige, has a nice car, dresses nice, buys his woman things, and other superficial things. Now the point is that there are PLENTY of eligible GOOD black men out there but many women are looking for SUPER black men. The trash man and the man working at McDonald's are not 'good' enough. The overweight teacher is not 'good' enough. The nerdy accountant is not 'good' enough. The small business owner who is seen as cheap is not 'good' enough. The guy in the '94 ford escort is not 'good' enough. This list goes on and on. IMHO many women are searching for SUPER MAN and getting frustrated cuz they can't find him, when PRETTY DAM* GOOD MAN is trying to be apart of your life everyday and is just as frustrated at the constant rejection. Now the question I get most often when I offer this opinion is "WHY SHOULD I SETTLE?" My answer to that is either...don't considering it settling, consider it being open minded, or wait (but don't say there is a shortage of 'good' black men when you are disqualifying some daily) And now that I've read the post with the "man-sharing" I would say that a WHOLE GOOD man is better than HALF a SUPER man anyday...What do you all think? "people who are intent on finding gold will miss all of the diamonds they are surrounded by"