This question is for the Sistas, but brothers if you have found any information that might be helpful on this matter please feel free to chime in. Ladies why is it that so many relationships seem to suffer from the same problem. Wives that almost refuse to have sex with their husband but then get so upset at the thought of him touching another woman, taking to another woman, mentioning another woman, ect. Forgive me but I cannot help but to find that pattern of behavior one of the most selfish things I have come across. A guy sits in front of a finely prepared meal. He is not hungry but his best friend is. However, instead of him allowing his best friend to enjoy the meal he would rather watch it waste away. Furthermore, if the best friend decides that it is too much to beg for it and he would rather go across the street where fine meals not only seem to be in abundance, but where you are welcomed to eat (no pun intended) he would be less than a dog for his actions. I had resigned myself to the notion that it was just me. Maybe she had lost interest. Maybe it is that in 7 years she has lost interest. Then while talking with a friend I find out that he is having the same problem. Let me paint the picture for you. This guy is a personal trainer, former NFL player. 6’4” turns down lots of women, ect, can’t get his wife to have sex. I soon realize that the married man jokes are not jokes. They are in large part true???? It just doesn’t make sense to me and I’m starting (as a Christian) beginning to understand the people who laugh at marriage. I was even told by one guy that he and his wife had a “Quota”. I remember thinking if I got to that point divorce would be a real consideration. I really am past the frustration (never cheated or “tricked”, waited until marriage for 99% of the sex I have had). At this point I just want to learn. I love to figure things out (B.S. Business Admin, MBA 2011, CMA 2011). I am persistent so I will figure this out one way or another, lol. It would really help to hear from the ladies on this one.