Greetings Kemestry
I needed to come back and clarify a few things here.
First, my Mother had none of her children oow. She raised us single handling after my father decided he was within his bounds to do some fowl ish. After they separated, and many many more black men left the home for various reasons...the next generation of Sistren learned to do without. They learned "I can do bad by myself" kind of thing. Most of that "bad" meant surviving in economic poverty and beating up on self.... putting self down without any help.
I know this is a major factor in the things you reference. The attitudes of Women of Afreekan Descent has clearly progressed in a way which may be hurtful at times...and men did and do the same.
As I thought of my father during this time....I thought of this thread and I posted as I did.
That's all for now.
M.E.
Finally, you make a distinct difference in what I have been refering to. Those that are victim of circumstances and those that self inflict an injury. Pointing out a self inflicted injury is not hatred. It's love
At now 80%, it IS the primary cause of the break down of our families and thus our community. There is no way around this. I submit that as long as there is a willingness to enable this behavior, we have identified the true haters in here. 
