I think we basically agree Deepvoice. Pan said it well. " I don't consider them black, unless they consider themselves to be black! "
I have some cousins that are of mixed race. They don't reject their parents influence. Nor do they seem ashamed in any way. Lucky for them some of the things they desire in life won't get them in a frustrated mode, their parents are doing well enough to shield them from want.
Is the anger as it is expressed by some or the rejection of one race over another as it exist by some just personal embarrassment on their part?
Is the disowning of the truth part of being included with a race of struggling individuals and knowing that the cards are stacked on one side against them?
Everyone wants to be on the winning team. But after that team looses a few.
Would they feel comfortable coming back over and can they easily switch teams ( thought processes. ) ?
Or is it lack of avenues and means of living a decent life they desire and see but can't obtain part of the root cause?
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That soul food thing is deep rooted. " Are blacks genetically predisposed to liking chicken? " Dave Shappel made this a joke in his comedy act.
We do like chicken. I'm not ashamed ( I don't like chitterlings, but others in my family like them. Mexicans use them in Menudo ) at all for what the slaves had to endure. Real creative.. ( survival is the true test of a race and man ) because if you don't cook them right, and drop an oinion in the pot. You could get very sick. They had to survive and when they could they didn't want to tolerate it. They chose the death penalty of running away. What they did was give us a chance. On shakey ground but a chance to make it further.
When the slaves stole a few. They would burn the feathers, and cook that chicken during the night. It wasn't allowed and most meals came once a day, or once a week. One pair of shoes a year, and when they wore out even in the dead of winter, feet had to go bare.
I was watching the salve narratives the other day. I also read them often on line. Actual letters from slaves.
Same with the stereotype about watermelon. Slaves stole them and ate them fast, getting it all over their faces. They feed slaves from troughs. spells ( T- roughs it would be rough now and not tolerated if we were asked to do that today. ) Like pigs and laughed when the children all kneeled over it to eat.