Black Spirituality Religion : The Quality of our Fate depends on how we treat Black Women

teachthechildren

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Mar 30, 2013
69
39
Texas
First of all thank you Sir..for not bring offended by my statment...I feel so sorry for some pf these women who are hardworking good mothers and loyal....
You are correct...we talked earlier about simple ways to please most women and that is to be respectful...of course the man diserves this in return..Ive observed in my life people who are mix matched...a good man with a loose woman a good woman with a womanizer...I think as people get older they long for a calmness..We should seek this at a young age..but if you grow up with chaos it is something you must break away from..proof that sistas do want to settle down and have a man ..protector and friend..
Think about all the sistas that have allowed them self to get pregnant thinking it will keep the man there...it doesn't once he has slept with here and arguments start he is gone ...a good brother who is educated...respectful,nice looking and legally employeed
can have any woman no matter what color..He knows this....but how often do you see an asian man with a sista..indian man with a sista...I have not...so with that said..I ask on behalf of all sistas...brothers do not abandone us..who do we have to protect us but the black man.We are not as strong as you..If you see us stranded please stop and check on us...If you know we are single parents please offer to mentor no strings attached ....What can we do for you in return?...Random thoughts...about this topic..
 

Perfection

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Aug 21, 2012
2,169
577
First of all thank you Sir..for not bring offended by my statment...I feel so sorry for some pf these women who are hardworking good mothers and loyal....
You are correct...we talked earlier about simple ways to please most women and that is to be respectful...of course the man diserves this in return..Ive observed in my life people who are mix matched...a good man with a loose woman a good woman with a womanizer...I think as people get older they long for a calmness..We should seek this at a young age..but if you grow up with chaos it is something you must break away from..proof that sistas do want to settle down and have a man ..protector and friend..
Think about all the sistas that have allowed them self to get pregnant thinking it will keep the man there...it doesn't once he has slept with here and arguments start he is gone ...a good brother who is educated...respectful,nice looking and legally employeed
can have any woman no matter what color..He knows this....but how often do you see an asian man with a sista..indian man with a sista...I have not...so with that said..I ask on behalf of all sistas...brothers do not abandone us..who do we have to protect us but the black man.We are not as strong as you..If you see us stranded please stop and check on us...If you know we are single parents please offer to mentor no strings attached ....What can we do for you in return?...Random thoughts...about this topic..
No need to thank me Queen. You not only deserve respect...you are owed it. Even if you were to disrespect me (as some have and do lol) I am still obligated to respect you as a Black Woman. Strong black men have to roll with the punches until we can connect with the majestic frequencies which reside in all our Black Women. And of course, we black men need that respect too but sometimes we may not always get it like we should. But those in the know understand two important situations about Black Women.

First, the few Black Women who may not respond to the respect and kindness are usually the ones who are in the most pain. And we still recognize those as our beautiful Queens. Some of our Queens are just so used to being abused mentally that they just have an automatica tendency to attack decent Brothas. But like I wrote above, since we live in the West, it's a challenge for us all not to be mean-spirited to each other all the time.

Second, that for every Black Woman who may not respond to our respect and kindness, there are ten (like you) who will which will amply make up for the loss :)

Now, if you don't mind please let me mention something that you said which some may find a bit unclear. You said that there are some women who are "loose" and I'm not sure if we should be using terms like those for our women. That term could mean so many things to so many different people. I think we all need to practice using more positive terms for our Queens and less negative ones. And of course I'm not saying you meant anything overwhelmingly negative by it. I'm merely saying let us all start finding those magnificent sides of any Black Woman.
 

Perfection

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Aug 21, 2012
2,169
577
For those Black Women here in the West, the idea of being seen and treated as royalty is, generally speaking, a foreign concept. You can sometimes here some of our Black Women say something to the effect that "I'm just like any other woman...I don't have to be treated special." And unfortunately some of our Brothas are more than willing to oblige the request. But it doesn't have to be that way.

There isn't anything wrong with us reaching back into our historical records and studying the ways we black men treated our Black Women and how she looked forward to be treated. She stood by us Brothas...all the way.
 

Perfection

Well-Known Member
MEMBER
Aug 21, 2012
2,169
577
The Quality of of future depends on how we treat our Black Women. In many instances, very few understand how deep that goes. This applies to some of our Sistahs and Brothas. You know there's this big disadvantage you and me have here in the West. Because we are in constant contact with forces in opposition to us, the hatred we have for our individual selves and each other is at fever pitch.

There are a few Queens here who may think that I don't know that they wait patiently, with some Brothas, hoping one day that I show a part of me which isn't consistent with what I write. They're the ones who hope to seize an opportunity to do a "gotchu" when it comes to me disrespecting our Black Women. Or, they may try and engage in another system by "liking" an oppositional post thinking this will throw me off my square.

Last year I held a class on these very same issues. It was entitled "When some Black Women turn deep respect into dislike." Along with some solutions to the issue, basically we discussed how some Black Women are intimidated by unprecedented love shown her. We came up with a number of symptoms expressed like sometimes they want a good Brotha to fail because they may not have one in their lives. It's understandable.

Sometimes they do it because they may have just recently lost a good Brotha for certain reasons and now they just want to attack another good Brotha. Sometimes they may have a bad day or week. But it never surprises me when a Brotha or a Sistah attempts to attack me because I know it's not really them that's doing it...but rather the mindset derivative from the system that we're all caught up in.

If I ask you for permission to speak, you don't try and turn that into a negative. You don't say something like "You just say what you have to say." You see this indicates that you are unaware of how you should be treated and so when you get it you reject it not knowing the good thing which is happening to you. You're not being reasonable.

Remember what we stated earlier on about people treating you like they see you. This is a generL rule. If people see you like a savage, they will treat you like a savage. If people see you like a persome who can make things happen, they will treat you as such like you have power. If I ask permission to speak on the message board, which all Brothas should be doing, this is demonstrating how I see you because as you are on your throne my head could be served on a platter if I bypass this standard act of respect from the Ancient World.

For those reasons, you will never hear about me...you will never see me...you will never see my words disrespecting Black Women no matter how you come at me. You don't try and shut somebody doen who is trying to protect your interest. If someone comes in your house and says that the women in your house are worthless. You don't step in the way of your guard dog (yes, I will call myself that) to offer a demonstration of your power to let the individual know the nature of your home which is a zero tolerence measure against disrsepcting your domicile.

You see, if I disrespect you, I give them knuckle headed Brothas --who don't even like you...who tries to find any excuse to mingle with women who don't look like you-- an even better excuse to throw you under the bus. Their atttiude is if Brothas like me turn their backs on you, then their goes the ranch.

I know the respect that I offer you Black Woman is unprecedented. Most Black Women who understand the legacy from which she comes, desires a Brotha to adore her. I don't care what you 'say' but you want a Brotha to treat you like royalty incorporating sweet words, adoration and the highest respect in his system with you.

Black Women, as a collective here in the West, are used to being put down, not elevated. I get it. So yes, I also know it's unusual and can be very intimidating at times. You're being asked to reconsider what is being said about you. You're being asked to reconsider all the negatives about you. You're being asked to resurrect yourself out of the dungeon that many of us put you in.

You receiving our unconditional love is so unique, it can become so intimidating at times, that your brain patterns can be disrupted to a point with confusion and you start wanting to attack the very men who wants to protect and love you. Now, when Queens do this to me on a personal level...I just ignore them and try to avoid all contacts. I love you but that does not obligate me to be in your presences.

I am allowed to respond to your unkindness by walking away from you.

But in all, I understand Queen as this is how you are taught to respond to a black man who loves you. I didn't see any of these certain Queens come out against other accounts which dogged them out and called them horrible names. Not one. No Queens came out. In fact, some of the Queens participated in the dogging out of herself (her fellow Sistah)!!

But again, I'm not surprised at these types of actions and this is not a criticism. It's just I think maybe it was time that I write something like this to remind our Queens what they should be doing as it relates to supporting good Brothas. I'm not asking you for money...I'm asking you for kindness...I'm asking you for that which I have given you the first day I walked into this Garden. And I'm asking you to extend this to me based on me being consistent by never once disrespecting one Black Woman. I know you're hurt. And I know we, black men, hurt you the most. But don't exacerbate the problem by attacking the good Brothas. Learn to know the difference because nothing good can come forth from that type of scenario Queen. You are better than that.

So what am I saying? I am saying that like it or not... I'm forreal. I'm genuine. I'm exclusice pro Black Woman till the end and beyond. Now I never said that some Black Women can't scale the walls of my patience and strike a missle at my last nerve lol. Happens all the time. But I still love you. I still respect you. Don't try and push away one of the few Brothas who advocates your glorification because I guarantee you this would be a move you will later regret.

It doesn't matter who you are...if you attack me, those who really know me will spin the bottle in your direction because they know I am committed to Black Women. And even though I know you may not have this type of energy in your circle, may I ask that you consider standing with me rather than against me. Because in the end, you want a black man like me to remain in whatever circle you create.
 
Destee Chat

Latest profile posts

We want to make this website the last destination for people who wish to the right product for their needs. Regardless of whether it be a new gaming keyboard, baby product, trendy fashion, monitors and or workstation gadgets, you will consider our unbiased reviews on only beasts.com the essential guide to understanding your choices.
https://only-beasts.com
Destee wrote on Joyce's profile.
Thanks for the Blessing! Love You! :kiss:
Making sure I do more than I did yesterday. Progress is the Concept.
Ms Drea wrote on yahsistah's profile.
Welcome Back Sister!!
Love and Blessings!!
Hey Sister Destee just logged in to say Love you and miss you much! Hope you are well.
Top