- Aug 21, 2012
Thank you Queen for mentioning "balance," as you see it, against the backdrop with what our dear Brotha stated. Your input I must add supports what I'm saying. You are saying that "black women have not done correctly." So now let us do a pan view of what we're dealing with.Kieta was blunt, but real and not many men will carry that weight of being responsible for our situation today...I must offer some balance by saying perhaps there have been things we as black women have not done correctly,but with patience all things can be corrected and people can heal....
On the one hand some Brothas pointing at us Brothas as being the problem, then on the other hand, Queens pointing at themselves; then others of us pointing at both of us and... yet others pointing at those who don't look like us and then there are others pointing at those who we can't even see. I'm merely saying that perhaps that is an alternative move we no longer enjoy if we seek to move forward.
Recall a few posts back I gave that analogy about hungry, mad-dog wolves giving chase? If we are in a dire, red-zone emergency we really don't have the luxury or the time to examine certain issues.
Let's pause here for a moment. Is anyone here saying that our collective situation is not desperately urgent? Don't see any hand up. OK.
This is not at all meant to be construed that those issues are not important to us individually and collectively. What I argue, and this I would humbly try to communicate with anyone like I've been doing in this room and others for months, what I argue is --metaphorically-- that our car is running strictly off fumes and grace. Our ride is past "E"...and it's running hot too and smoking from the engines not to mention the pressure in our tires are extremely low and we can hear clicking sounds coming from the engine.
The "Check Engine" light is on.
Therefore, we can't make any stops ---no matter how serious the matter appears to be--until we come to the gas station.
Now examining our analogy a bit further the question, or the burden, was put forth to the Brotha and not the Queens because it's time for us (Brothas) to reveal more of our gentleman side and be like "You know what...I need to do what's right and turn off or either pause my concerns on those issues until I can get my wife and kids to safety."
Some of our Brothas may be asking, "Well why ain't Black Women asked to get her stuff straight first." I respond by noting, "in the face of the current circumstances, a black gentleman-warrior wouldn't even ask such a question."
So in that sense, Brotha K's desired results and those who blunt like him are not lost in the scenario; meaning the focus is still on us to move us (black men) toward the glorifying of our Black Women so that we may have a better future. And so to use your eloquent words:
with patience all things can be corrected and [our] people can heal