Black Muslims : The Prophet's [saws] Polygamous Marriages

Discussion in 'Islam Study Group' started by noor100, Oct 12, 2013.

  1. noor100

    noor100 Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Aug 17, 2010
    Messages:
    1,039
    Likes Received:
    565
    Gender:
    Female
    Ratings:
    +566
    "And it becometh not a believing man or a believing woman, when Allah and His Messenger [saws] have decided an affair [for them],that they should [after that] claim any say in their affair, and whoso is rebellious to Allah and His Messenger, he verily goeth astray in error manifest." Qur'an 33-36

    Allah Ta'ala has given certain priviledges only to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) which are mentioned in Chapter 33 vs 50-51. Among other priviledges one was having more than four wives simultaneously. Allah TaÃla says, 'Oh Nabi (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) We have made permissible for you your wives.'(Ahzaab 33-50). The polygamous marriages of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) to more than four wives simultaneously should be viewed as obeying the order of Allah TaÃla to do so. It was not merely a means of fulfilling his carnal desires as many people allege. The Arab environment was infested with many evils among which was adultery and fornication. Despite living in such an environment, he never indulged in this evil act. His modesty was so popular among his people that when the Prophet (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) claimed prophethood, his people made every effort to disgrace him by accusing him of being a poet, practising witchcraft, of being insane, etc. However, nobody ever accused him of any act of immodesty. The Prophet (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) was very handsome and attractive. Many beautiful women from honourable families even proposed marriage to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) but he declined. Instead, when he was only 25 years of age he married a widow who had children from her previous marriage. Considering the fact that he was the most handsome person that Allah TaÃla has created, many women desired him in marriage. Had he followed his desires, there was no obstacle for him to do so. In his youth, he could have had many many beautiful women, but he married a widow 15 years his senior. He lived with her for 25 years and she bore all the children of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) except one. When Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) was 50 years of age, Hadhrat Khadija (Radhiallaahu Ãnha) passed away. Those 25 years of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam)'s marriage was a monogamous one. The polygamous marriage was only after he attained the age of 50.
    AFTER 50 YEARS
    He married Hadhrat Sawdah and Ãaisha (Radhiallaahu Ãnhuma). Sawda (Radhiallaahu Ãnha) lived with him immediately but Ãaisha (Radhiallaahu Ãnha) came to live with him in the year 2 AH. when he was approximately 54 years of age.
    55 YEARS (3 AH.)
    He married Hadhrath Hafsa (Radhiallaahu Ãnha). After a few months, he married Hadhrat Zaynab bin Khuzaymah (Radhiallaahu Ãnha) who lived with him for only 3 or 18 months (as recorded in different narrations) before she passed away.
    56 YEARS (4 AH.)
    He married Umme Salma (Radhiallaahu Ãnha)
    57 YEARS (5 AH.)
    He married Zaynab (Radhiallaahu Ãnha)
    58 YEARS (6 AH)
    He married Hadhrat Juwayriyah (Radhiallaahu Ãnha)
    59 YEARS (7 AH.)
    First he married Umme Habibah then Safiyyah then Maymoonah (Radhiallaahu Ãnhunna) in one year.
    From the above explanation, it is clear that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam)'s marriage was a monogamous one till he was 50 years. His polygamous marriages, mostly to widows were after the age of 50 with the command of Allah TaÃla. Had Nabi (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) followed his carnal desires, he would have married all virgins and changed them in short periods of time. Since the polygamous marriages of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) was by the order of Allah, therefore, the wisdom of that order cannot be questioned nor comprehended. However, according to our limited understanding, the wisdom underlying the polygamous marriages of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) was:
    Since Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) came as a teacher to mankind, there are many avenues of a person's domestic life which had to be conveyed to the Ummah. It was the many wives of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) who had the knowledge of these aspects and fulfilled their responsibility by conveying the teachings of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) to the Ummah. Consider the following:​
    • Ãaisha (Radhiallaahu Ãnha) [known for her excellent memory] alone narrated approximately 2210 Ahaadith with regard to different laws, character, ettiquettes, etc. The narrations of Hadhrat Umme Salma (Radhiallaahu Ãnhu) totals up to 378. Hafiz ibn Qayyim (RA) mentions that if the Fataawa of Hadhrat Umme Salma (RA) had to be gathered which she gave after the demise of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam), then the need would arise to compile an entire book. The total students of Ãaisha (Radhiallaahu Ãnha) are approximately 200 and she taught Deeni knowledge for 48 years consecutively after the demise of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam).
    • The mission of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) was to convert people and propagate Islam. By marrying one woman, her entire tribe had accepted Islam. This was done by virtue of marrying that woman.
    • Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) had to transform the evils of the society by practice. The people shunned marrying widows especially if they already had children from their previous husbands. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam) married a widow and thereby changed the wrong ideology of the people. Likewise, he reformed the society that abused the orphans by caring for the orphans of the women he married.
    These are but just a few reasons behind the wisdom of the Holy Prophet (Sallallaahu Ãlayhi Wasallam)'s polygamous marriages.

    http://www.beautifulislam.net/marriage/polygamy_islam_p.html
     
  2. noor100

    noor100 Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Aug 17, 2010
    Messages:
    1,039
    Likes Received:
    565
    Gender:
    Female
    Ratings:
    +566
  3. noor100

    noor100 Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Aug 17, 2010
    Messages:
    1,039
    Likes Received:
    565
    Gender:
    Female
    Ratings:
    +566
    [Why] Polygyny [Not] Polygamy

    Webster’s New World Dictionary defines polygamy as "the practice of having two or more wives or husbands at the same time." Since Muslim women are not allowed to have two or more husbands, let’s find a better word: polygyny. The same dictionary defines polygyny as "a practice of having two or more wives at the same time."
    Polygyny
    Polygyny was practiced, often without limitations, in almost all cultures. Various religions approved of it and practiced it before and after Islam. Several of the Prophets, mentioned in the Torah and the Bible, had more than one wife. Today it is being secretly practiced by at least 30,000 middle-class Mormons in the USA. However, it is no secret that polygyny of another sort is also being practiced in America and Europe: the practice of having a mistress or mistresses. The difference is that while the non-Muslim male has no legal obligations or responsibilities towards his second, third or fourth mistresses and their children, a Muslim husband has complete legal obligations and responsibilities towards his second, third, or fourth wife and their children.
    In Islam, there is no doubt that a second wife, who is legally married and treated kindly, is better off than a mistress who has no legal rights. In addition, the legitimate child of a polygynous father, who has all the rights and privileges of a son or daughter, is better off than the unwanted or wanted illegitimate child.
    As for possible reasons why polygyny is allowed in Islam, one should keep in mind that Islam is very practical in the way that it addresses life’s problems. It is a fact that wars usually take their toll mainly on men, leaving behind widows and women who can not find husbands. Polygyny provides a solution to this problem of a male shortage.
    A man who discovers that his wife is barren or is chronically ill, but who wishes to have children of his own or satisfy his natural instinct in a legitimate way, while still caring for his first wife, could turn to polygyny as a solution. Allah (SWT) says in the Qur'an:
    "And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice." (An-Nisa’ 4:3)
    From this verse it becomes clear that polygyny is not mandatory, but is permitted and is Sunnah. Dealing justly with one’s wives is an obligation and this applies to housing, food, clothing, kind treatment, etc. If a husband is not sure of being able to deal justly with them, then he is commanded to marry only one.
    Information From Questions and Answers About Women’s Rights In Islam
    Compiled By Lea Zaitoun




    Half Body Paralysed:


    Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “If a man has two wives, but does not treat them with equality and even-handed justice, he shall be resurrected on the Day of Judgement in such a condition that half of his body is paralysed.” [Tirmidhi]

    If you possess more than one wife, treat them all impartially, fairly, and equitably, in the time and material resources you allocate to each of them. Keep your behaviour the same with all of them. As for the fact that a man may be especially attracted towards one wife or cherish deeper feelings of love for her, Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) will award no punishment to a man for that. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) used to take great care in dispensing equal treatment to his wives.
     
Loading...
Similar Threads - Prophet's [saws] Polygamous
  1. noor100
    Replies:
    0
    Views:
    743
  2. noor100
    Replies:
    0
    Views:
    851
  3. prophet2
    Replies:
    3
    Views:
    520