The Mantidote July 1st, 2003 The unforeseen consequences of baby-momma-ism There is much talk amongst our community about the decline of strong parental habits within the black community. I have talked about it a lot in several settings. This Mantidote is going to be brief, but very important. I must ask also that anyone reading this please put all battle-of-the-sexes issues and any other personal issues aside when reading this and heed the very core what I am saying. I am going to talk about one of the most unforeseen consequences of the psychological disease that is striking our women which can be summed up by “baby-momma-ism,” that is going to have very grave consequences if not address... the growing decline of children being breastfed. Breastfeeding is being replaced by Gerber bottles filled with synthetic formula milk that is by no means capable of replacing breast milk. Whether or not your doctrine is mainstream religion or mainstream science, you must agree that what you were given to work with is all you need when it comes to feeding your child. The Religious person would agree that the God, whom they believe to be all powerful and almighty, did not make a mistake when creating a woman’s body to feed a child. The science world (that which has not been bought our rented by the baby formula industry) may or may not include God in that statement, but they will tell you that breast milk is your body’s natural way of producing milk specifically for your child’s bodily needs. Mr. Similac doesn’t have time to understand exactly how much of what nutrients your baby will need to develop from a newborn baby with extremely sensitive body systems to a pre-toddler ready to eat solid foods. That is not the nature of mass production. But your body knows. Why trust any other machine than your body, which already has data from your child’s genetic composition on file? Breastfeeding has irreplaceable benefits that range from helping to ensure the strong development of a child’s skeleton, muscles and immune system. Last year, the New York times released an article that linked breastfeeding to higher IQ’s in babies. This was nothing new to me... I remember a relative telling a young person of mine that said, “you should breastfeed your child if you want them to be smart.” Yet, with the growing amount of young mothers there also is a growing shame for breastfeeding which is leading to a decline our children receiving the nutrients they need. A lot of the reason appears to be that many young mothers are finding shame in breastfeeding or just show outright apathy for the child born onto them. Yet. you can find them up in the club every Friday going home with another man (whom she knew for only a few hours) who will proceed to do to her breast with his mouth what her newborn baby... at home with the grandparents or whoever drinking Similac or SMA... should be doing. I’m not just clowning on the sisters... all of you brothers who participate in furthering her bad habits are guilty too. There needs to be an increase of good parenting classes within our schools and very soon. Please don’t talk about what “should be.” I understand that teens should not be having sex so early without having the opportunity to establish careers, but we are not dealing with what should be... we are dealing with WHAT IS, and we must act quickly. And for all of you so-called “pro-life” people out there... it is time for you to put up or shut up. I am working on this as we speak in the Atlanta area, so pop me an email at [email protected] if you are nearby and want to volunteer or if you’re interested in doing something similar in your community. I’m out.