MetaSaience said:those in relationship sciences, and life coaching would say otherwise. That you can't have a marriage with insecurities. There's a frying pan with my Uncle's name on it that says otherwise, and those two have been together for almost 35 years.
I am one whose credentials support my association as one in the "relationship science"....I mean...being a Family Therapist and all....l would not say "otherwise"
MetaSaience said:We can't use these insecurities as a reason for our relationships not to work,
I would suggest and RE~mind all that we live our lives on FIVE DIMENSIONS of experience ....at the same time! These experiences are framed from a family/communal[ity]. How insecure is she on an Individual and Societal level and what degree and what degree of emotional resources does she [or he] have to combat it.
Rarely have I see a couple or family break up for tension happening on ONE level of experience...It rarely is there any ONE thing that breaks a couple or family up. This is what I've seen and what I WOULD say, as a "life coach" (RE~call my reference to myself as the "Communications Coach":?, there's usually more than meets the eye in any sit or shyuation
MetaSaience said:if you love everything about your partner, most likely something IS wrong with you.
I think the thing is, at any given time, one CAN "love everything"....THEY KNOW about their partner....at any given time. The "wrong" about 'you' may be situated in the Reality that you are working with limited information .....and that's been a bad thing for Us....
Just some initial thoughts...
Thanks for Sharing and Listening to...
M.E.