Black Relationships : The Hyphen Issue!

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  1. Mike Ramey

    Mike Ramey Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    OK Web Warriors: Here's a hot one....

    You find the woman of your dreams. I mean the right build, the right hair, and the right one. You POP the question, and she says YES--BUT: I'll hyphenate my name with yours.

    Is this a big deal?

    Would you break the engagement?

    Would you find out earlier?

    The clock is ticking!

    Mike Ramey:toast:
     
  2. ZeroGravity

    ZeroGravity Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Greetings Mike...either she's the right one or she isn't. If you have a problem with a hyphen, then she's not the right one, even with all her other attributes, on the other hand if you don't have a problem with hyphens then you have met the right one.

    It's not a big deal with me.

    btw, doesn't your signature (the African Proverb) kinda answer this question?
     
  3. Mike Ramey

    Mike Ramey Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Just Curious!

    ZeroGravity: My signiture hits it, just like yours does! I just wanted to put this one on the table to 'check the room', so to speak. I hadn't seen it handled in a forum, and wanted to get the feel of the 'family' on it.

    Mike Ramey

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    truely it's no big deal too me ....
     
  5. yvonne

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    hyphen

    bold I just got married on April 19 and I was told by a family member to have a hyphen in my last name because it is easier to keep up with your paperwork and bills that you might have had before you got married.
     
  6. UbZoRbShUn

    UbZoRbShUn Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    wait now

    if she gone marry you then she needs to take your name period. What’s the point in a hyphen anyway. Some old school folks will tell you that’s disrespectful and you starting the marriage off on the wrong foot. If you don’t want his last name then what else do you not want and blah blah blah….. I agree with you kem… we can shack all you want but if we gone be legit then you taking this last name.
    Yvonne don’t do it because if you forget to sign your hyphenated name and only use your husbands name then it can cause all kinds of problems. You would have to sign and have notarized Same Name Affidavits and all kinds of mess. If yall married then your bills are his bills and vice versa.



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    yeap zobbie ya right but i have seen some take the name
    and still use it as fit and what if u sign ya name on something
    this way and the next another way it would be a mess
    ya sho nuff right take it or leave it .!
     
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    redlady Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Okay, well when I got married 10 years ago, I had no problem with changing my name to my husbands name, he took me as his wife, this was no fem thing, but then my mother sat me down and said to me that because my father never had any sons and instead had a stack of daughters, and me being the youngest and the last one, would I mind hyphenating my name? He felt that with me and my sisters marrying off and all of his living kin dropping dead like flies that he would be the only one left carrying the family name. I then went home and asked my already husband if that would be a problem...he asked why? I guess my answer was sufficient, but for the record, I sign my last name as my husbands and only use maiden name as my middle initial...my father is NOT standing over my shoulder everytime I sign my paycheck is he? ACT LIKE YA KNOW!
     
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    UbZoRbShUn Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    now that's a good point... about ya dad having all girls and what not. See that's different other than just not wanting to do it at all... and what about the women who don't take the last name from jump or get this and I ain't lying.... a woman actually had her husband take her name......WTF




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    u mean to tell me that a man took his wife name !
    hummm! see in today's world things change daily
    he was o'k wit dat. ????
     
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