Black Poetry : THE FRIEND ZONE

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  1. garlicsalt99

    garlicsalt99 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    THE FRIEND ZONE

    “Let’s be friends” … a three word phrase that has a ring to it
    Along with a certain feel of which I can say I’ve been through it
    With a solemn sentiment that is all its own
    Words that automatically puts you in the friend zone
    Given the choice, I’d rather be on a different plane with a woman
    But I take it as an ominous sign and an incomplete omen
    That we’re not meant to be … for whatever reason
    I’m not one to look at it as a betrayal or an act of high treason
    “Let’s be friends” … three words that strikes a chord
    Leaving a sour taste on my emotions, rattling me like a bean in an empty gourd
    And though I’ve grown since first hearing those words, the feelings still ring like a chime
    I go on about my business now, and grow with the passing of time
    Like the sound of my own voice, I’ve heard it for so long
    It sings like a line from an all-to-familiar song
    “Let’s be friends” … has a familiar resonance
    I’m used to it because the friend zone is my residence

    With the hope of something more planted in my heart
    I gain a boldness and a confidence to approach you and take a start
    To articulate what and how I feel about the apple of my eye
    Only to hear three words that would form an emotional sty
    Hearing those words for the first time didn’t put my mind at ease
    They stirred discomfort in my soul and made me fall to my knees
    But as I grew into a man and heard these words time and again
    I’d bow in a nod and acquiesce and embrace those words with a grin
    I had to learn to be myself, because myself is who I am
    I had to learn to continue to open up, instead of closing up like a clam
    I had to learn to face my feelings instead of running in retreat
    And more importantly, if no one is to walk with me, I am to move with my own two feet
    There’s a sting that’s felt neutral to gender, whether hers or his
    When our hopes meet head on the reality of what is
    We all feel it to varying degrees – a feeling that’s asserts its give
    This is where I rise and retire because the friend zone is where I live

    I could take it as an affront to my ego, and feel that I’ve been trashed
    I could take it personally … at least I did in the past
    That what I felt for a woman, they didn’t necessarily feel for me
    In my younger days, even though I had to let go, I just couldn’t let it be
    I would torment myself as to why or why not -
    A particular woman wasn’t willing to give me a shot
    Needlessly burdening myself with thoughts brought on by immaturity
    With an ever-growing self consciousness and mounting insecurity
    Turns out I had to get over myself and do myself a favor
    I had to appreciate my own sense of self, my own form and flavor
    I had to grow up, and grow out of the ‘why me’ state of mind
    And come to a knowledge that I am truly one of a kind
    I don’t erupt into a ‘hissy-fit’ and decide to throw a tantrum
    Nor do I keep bitterness in my personality, like the taste of ‘bad rum’
    I don’t don a grimace, stomp and say “I’m not having that”
    Instead, I stand on my porch and nod ‘alright’, because the friend zone is my habitat

    I’ve come to understand the feelings that I underwent
    And know now that ‘rejections of sorts’ isn’t a punishment
    It could be a message meant to be up front with no intent to deceive or trick
    Or it could very well be a sign that e and you just don’t click
    I’ve come to understand that sometimes men and women are meant to be what they are
    Just friends, or even acquaintances … or perhaps balanced equals on par
    Or maybe, just maybe people are in each others life for one specific purpose
    That in later times will enrich them both, and bring the other to surplus
    I’ve come to know that some men and women aren’t meant to become lovers
    It’s just not meant to be … for one reason or the other
    It could be a matter of perceived preeminence or personal dominion
    It could be a matter of values … or a difference of opinion
    I’ve grown a thick skin, like the sheath providing protection from the knife
    I’ve matured since the days of grade school and realize that rejection is a part of life
    I’ve come to appreciate platonic relationships as not being a mean to varying ends
    And on that note, I say to you with a soulful look … “Let’s be friends”

    Written by: Charles
    © 2009
     
  2. 1poetsought

    1poetsought Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Friendship Train

    I like the this. Way to step up to the reality plate, Bro.MAN. :great:
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    word up i second da motion here ......wow
     
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    WOW!!!
    I love this.
    It's so honest
    It makes me wanna be careful because I
    have put a couple of guys in "The Friend Zone.":qqb006:
     
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    I enjoyed this read GS I grew up in a household overflowing with brothas lol
    and most of them tell me the same thing, that men and women cant be "friends"
    and when a brotha got a sistah who is just a "friend" its because he either cant have her or hes waiting till he gets his chance or he dont want her & hes trying to be cordial about it LOL
    It was nice to read a different take on the "friend zone" :read:
     
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    I enjoyed the piece as a whole, as usual, but these lines jumped out at me:
    Certainly had me nodding whole heartedly in agreement.
    And then, there was the way you concluded this piece, saying that being a friend is actually a place of honor for not every pairing is meant to be mates. Wonderfully posed poet, wow.
     
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    a friend...

    ...is a valuable thing to be. "Let's be friends," after trying to be more...isn't always what we want to hear...but, at times, it could be the best thing to ever happen to us. but, like you said, WE HAVE TO GROW INTO THAT UNDERSTANDING of what life throws at us.

    poignant piece.

    let the river flow.
     
  8. free2b_me

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    AH HA, I KNEW IT!

    I KNEW THERE WAS SOMETHING ABOUT THOSE GUYS THAT HUNG AROUND ME AND ALWAYS CLAIMING THEY WERE OK BEING IN THE FRIEND ZONE. (SMILE) OK, I AM ONE OF THOSE WOMEN WHO ALWAYS SEEMS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP, AND I GUESS, THAT IS WHY THEY KINDA JUST HUNG AROUND, WAITIN FOR THEIR SHOT. THIS WAS TOO CUTE AND ALL TOO FAMILIAR.

    THIS WAS IN FACT A TRUE STORY POET. KEEP DOIN WHAT YOU DO AS I KICK BACK:wine: AND ENJOY
     
  9. Da Street So'ja

    Da Street So'ja Banned MEMBER

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    everybody is not meant to be together

    sometimes just being friends turns out to more regarding with that particular person

    very well expressed

    a story we all know all too well

    peace
     
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