IMO, the "solution" lies in the hands of both sides, Black men and Black women.
Yes, (I repeat) I agree with you that it is the Black woman who suffers ALL of the LIABILITY when she mates with a "Mookie." Therefore, it behooves HER and is in HER best interest NOT to be involved with a "Mookie" no matter how smooove his rap or how good-lookin' or fine.
However, IMO, the "solution" lies NOT in just telling Black females, "SAY NO TO MOOKIE."
Tacitly, that sends a message that says, "Well, them "Mookies" are out there, and we (Black men) can't do nothing 'bout 'em. *Cuz, you know, a man's gonna be a man.* So, it up to YALL to stop fallin' for their hustles and games. If YALL would stop hookin' up with them Mookies, then our people would be better off sociologically and economically."
If a Black man will speak to another Brotha about avoiding a "Skanketta," then why can't he also talk to another Brotha about NOT being a "Mookie?"
Likewise, for Black women talking to their Sistas about NOT being a "Skanketta" AND NOT gettin' hooked up with a "Mookie."
On the "Mookie Syndrome," I have personally heard and seen fathers and uncles and older cousins and older brothers take younger Black males (sons/nephews/brothers/cousins) with them when they have been cheating on their wives or girlfriends....They have allowed these young Black boys to listen to them on phone calls while they "spit their game" and (after hanging up) have INSTRUCTED them on WHAT to say and HOW to talk to girls/women to get them to fall for their "game/hustle."
So, when our young boys GROW UP being "TRAINED" on HOW TO BE A "MOOKIE," then what else can we expect? ---These young boys grow up LOOKING UP to these (so-called) men in their lives and they want to EMULATE them.
Conversely, there are young black girls who have grown up seeing their mothers "do what she gotta do" to make it...and/or their mothers have such low self-esteem, she thinks a "Mookie" is the best she can do.
But, then, we have some who wanna tell all Black females, "Well, YALL just need tah stop gettin' with them Mookies!.....Stop havin' alla these out-of-wedlock babies with these MOOKIES!"
Our problems in the BLACK FAMILY UNIT is the EFFECT and the CAUSE is GENERATIONAL DYSFUNCTION on BOTH SIDES.
So, the SOLUTIONS must come from BOTH SIDES as well.
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Please show me where I said this. In fact, no male or female that has agreed with me has said this. My direct statements have always been, Mookie doesnt care about anyones moralizing. He is regularly rewarded for being bad. There is absolutely no incentive for him to change because he is rewarded. Moreover, here is the main problem. You referring to him as a man.
Your observations of the training is all the more reason sisters to be in more control. You arent the only female that has seen this. But, as you have admitted, that warning hasnt armed many of you. For the last two generations, the hand that rocked the cradle has spawned and trained them. Because I have seen mothers and aunts telling their sons they doint have to man up. As was said by another, the simple act of denying this loser what he wants changes the paradigm. You will hear 'My Girl' again, instead of 'Drop it Like It's Hard'
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