Black Relationships : The Contradiction

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  1. Kemetstry

    Kemetstry going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Over a decade ago, I started the 'Say No to Mookie' Campaign. This was based on an observation that many females seemed to enjoy dating and mating with guys that were obviously no good for them. From the start, the main group that attacked me during this campaign, both actively and passively have surprisingly been females. WHY? Why would a group the would benefit most from this campaigns success, be the main ones attacking it?



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    Women are the only people being chastised.

    But it may have to do with your charisma.

    For instance, if your breath is bad, I can tell you with charisma: "Brother, you might want to brush that tongue a bit more" or without charisma, "How your feet reach my nose so quick? Your breath is kicking!"

    Suppose that you were exclaiming "SAY NO TO MOOKIE!!!," firstly it's judgmental on the part of the woman's partner, and it's an insult to the woman who does not see her man as "mookie" or who is dealing with the pains already.

    But if you say, "Beautiful woman, you deserve a faithful man who will always be there for your children," everything seems less critical, less judgmental and more elevating.

    It's kind of about sensitivity really.

    Like, say you have a wife, and I'm sure that if you do, she's an excellent example of an African woman, but bare with me. If I say, "Why are you always dating TAMEEKA?" you'll see how that can be offensive, even if your woman wasn't as good as she is. 'Cause you might say, sure my woman has flaws but she's not TAMEEKA. Who is this to tell me that my woman is TAMEEKA?

    Though for my part, I do not see why we are making fun of "Black" names. :-|
     
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    because the onus is being placed on women to stay away from those types of men rather than for men to step up their game.
     
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    So Eve, it isnt your fault for listening to satan, but GOD for putting him there?



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    The choices one choose ............
     
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    Why do you keep referring to a fairy tale from "the good book"?
     
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    satan is an angel (well, before he fell), so, that early on, one could possibly be excused for listening.

    for putting who there; adam or satan?

    man is satan?
     
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    Because it fits



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    Even though it is a fairy tale? Are you Christian?
     
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    Kemetstry going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    You said it was a fairy tale. I didnt



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