Black People : The affects of stereotypes

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  1. Astrologer4U

    Astrologer4U Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Anyone ever given some serious thoughts to stereotypes and the affects of them?

    Something occurred to me as I was asking my millions of questions to black men.

    African men born on the continent who relocate to America, they sleep with and have relations with white women more than African American men have relations with white women. For the African man, when he gets to America, it is more easier for him to have a relationship with a white woman than a African American woman or any other race of woman.

    Why is this???

    I thought of it from a stereotypical perspective. The things that African American women take for granted in the African man, the white woman sees power in. Like the size and shape of some African mens head, Or the accent an African man has and the clothes that some African men wear. If the African man does not fit certain stereotypes, the African American woman won't find him as interesting. The stereotypes that African American women take for granted are not exclusive to African men, this also goes for American black men as well...

    To some or most African American woman, a large head is not stereotypically attractive and looked upon as something unusual. The accent is something funny or humorous because it is not stereotypically American and the clothes some African men wear are clothes to be embarrassed about, because they are not stereotypically fashionable.

    African American men have challenges with getting an African sister born on the continent when she comes to America. Why is this???

    Most African women think that African American men are silly and not serious enough. African women doesn't see power in the ability to lighten up, when in fact there is a power to it. Most African people, when they come to America, or even when in Africa, they tend to become really stressed, even more than Americans because they are to serious and rarely take out time for self. Of course being stressed is due to the large responsibilities put on them but everyone has responsibilities.


    In certain places of Africa, Tall women are attracted to short men and Slim men are attracted to large women. Men with large heads are considered to have a brain full of intelligence and when he shows how intelligent he is, the size of his head is proven to be worthy of attraction.


    I remember when I was a younger, I used to always have the so called stereotypically ugly boyfriends. They were either to black, didn't know how to dress or didn't get regular hair cuts but to me, they were cute. When I got older, and would reminisce with my cousins and friends about our childhood, they would now be telling me how cute my boyfriends were, when at first, my boyfriends were ugly to them.

    I told that story to say this, what we take for granted today, becomes popular tomorrow and we should learn to look outside the box beyond stereotypes. Otherwise if we don't, what we now appreciate may turns it's back on us when the day comes that we finally appreciate it.

    Stereotypes are tricks and for many of us, stereotypes lead our lives.

    I have this friend who feels that if he is driving a raggedy car, he has to explain his self. I have this other friend who won't dance on an empty dance floor at a club because everyone else is not dancing and he doesn't want to be the only one dancing, when everyone else is not. I have another friend who worries about what other people think of him.

    The one who explains his raggedy car, use to have a nice car that he could not afford. He had the nice car so that he could fit the stereotype of someone having money, when in fact he did not have enough money to have the kind of car that he had. He got the car repossessed and now has bad credit due to this. In his eyes, the raggedy car is a sign of his failure. All he had to do was live within his means and not care about fitting into the stereotype that say's you are what people see of you.

    The one who won't dance on an empty dance floor, his life is in such shambles because anyone who knows him, knows that all they have to do is act like they are in need of some kind of help and they can pretty much sucker him out of anything. Because of his being able to be suckered, although he works, he has nothing. He doesn't want for people to think that he is selfish or mean so he gives out his last in an effort not to appear selfish or mean. The stereotype that he has fallen for is, a man is determined by what he has to offer... and the other stereotype is, if you are the only one doing something and no one else is, you must be a fool. That last stereotype is laced in peer pressure.

    Stereotypes hinder us from dealing with our own insecurities and stereotypes mask the real issues that we have with ourselves.



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  2. Ankhur

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    There is a stereotype that says Black folks do not enjoy talking about politics, economics or community planning and that is the reason why our communities suffer.
     
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    A list of stereotypes

    I lifted these from another site...

    I only listed the ones that seem to affect black people...


    http://www.progressiveu.org/153355-list-of-common-stereotypes

    High schol Stereotypes:

    All of these don't necessarily affect black people but I thought some of them were funny so I listed them for humorous purposes only...


    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090908165328AAkBNZa




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    Applies only to black people...

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stereotype#Black_stereotypes
     
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    Personally, a black man is my preference regardless of where he is from, however, in my experiences with the African men I have "dated" (meaning gone out on dates once or twice) has never been any major issues other than finding out they have wives back at home in Africa. This is a risk you take with any man of another country, but I'll date an African man, West Indian man, BLACK MAN (cause he's so beautiful) period as long as I know its sincere.

    I've never had any problems with African men and stereotypes. This is why communication is important, and taking your time to get to know the INDIVIDUAL.

    I have a cousin who is married to a man from Ghana and he treats her very well. and she has the wonderful opportunity of going home (AFRIKA) a few times a year to visit his family.

    I'm jealous lol
     
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    You think that stereotype is true Ankhur?


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    I hear you sister, I am the same way, love me some black men no matter where they are from. I ran into that problem of having wife back home to but I think I got it down now, I can pretty much tell if they have a wife back home, there are some tall tale signs but that's another thread... LOL. I also had one that I dated who had no wife back home but he had one here in the states he married only so that he could stay in this country, but that's another thread as well...LOL


    So we have run into another stereotype that I hear alot. Most African men in America have wives back home in Africa and they only use African American women as bed mates. I hear that one a lot and it is very disturbing.


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    This is exactly what happens when people don't know themselves or feel comfortable being themselves. We only have one image to strive for. It's an eurocentric method that actually works, well , as we can see.

    Thus these negative stereotypes we own and make an mental reality.


    It's about image. Who's image we feel comfortable with because its the only image we know.

    "Labels and stereotypes" goes together. That why it's important IMHO that we define ourselves and know ourselves. Flaws and all. So we can be true to oursleves above anyone elses definition.

    The power of ones words ( labels and negative stereotypes ) don't and can't hurt you unless you give them your permission.

    Knowledge of self , love for oneselves , and wisdom and discipline. Kills the power of these negative stereotypes and labels. Besides, It feels good to go against the grain.



     
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    It depends on where the focus is, or will be

    alot of folks feel comfortable with Kat Stevens appearance or Lil Wayne kissing up on brothers and then bragging about the threat of murdering mothers and infants.

    Like Dr Francis Cress Welsing said, not from any stereotype but from observation,

    "We will talk about a problem, and talk about a problem and dicuss the issue, and thrn talk about it some more, and

    just before we get to a solution;

    we are back to talking about the problem again.


    No one can attain, that which they are not focused on
     
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    Explain...


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