Black Relationships : Ten Reasons Men don't get married...

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  1. Regina

    Regina Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    A friend sent me this list. What are your thoughts about the list?

    Ten Reasons Men don't get married...

    Reason 1: Men can get s-- without marriage more easily than in times past.

    Reason 2: Men can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying.

    Reason 3: Men want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.

    Reason 4: Men want to wait until they are older to have children.

    Reason 5: Men fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.

    Reason 6: Men are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn't yet appeared.

    Reason 7: Men face few social pressures to marry.

    Reason 8: Men are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children.

    Reason 9: They want to own a house before they get a wife.

    Reason 10: Men want to enjoy a single life as long as they can.
     
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    i agree with half
    as a man i look unto her inner beauty
    i'll give more on this matter in the days ahead !
     
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    Regina, my thoughts about this list is that I'm sure there are some men who would agree with some, if not all the reasons on that list. However, I don't put much stock into these kinds of things because they are so general in terms of how simple the reasons are stated. It's an interesting conversation piece though.
     
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    Men do want to get marriend eventually--little boys don't..........
     
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    Aaaahhh...sounds like we need to have another discussion about the difference between a "Man" and a "boy", which in my view has nothing to do with age, once he enters into his "adult" years.
     
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    1. Get what more easily,sex? A wedding ring on a married man is like a woman magnet.

    2.Seems like "Common Law Marriage" to me.

    3.I agree, the courts are not a man's friend.

    4. It depends on what u call older. I donot want to be 19 trying to raise a kid. 25+ is a good age if I am financially stable, (a secure job and not living at home with my mother). Get married straight out of high school is not a good thing.

    5. I disagree

    6.I disagree, I would not say I am waiting for the perfect women. Nobody is perfect.

    7. I agree, when is the last time u seen a man's wedding maganize.

    8.I agree, I hate women with bad ,disrespectful kids but, if the kid(s) is good I will consider. Although, a woman with numerous kids with numerous baby daddies, no!

    9.I agree. This goes back to number 3.

    10. I disgree, marriage can be a beautiful thing, but again there is no rush.
     
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    I agree with all of those reasons for SOME men. We all have different reasons.

    what about:
    1.Men don't trust women.

    2. Some women don't want to be married (i.e. Oprah and women like her).

    3. The time is not right.

    4. Some men believe their is no reason to get married
     
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    For me it's all about 3,4,6,8, and 9.
     
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    That's not always true, Keme.
     
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    i'm listening Keme break it down ....
     
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