Tears of a Man

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  1. CarrieMonet

    CarrieMonet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Men, do you feel it is a weakness to shed tears in front of your kids or your woman?

    Do you feel it makes you any less of a man to cry if your feelings are hurt?
     
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    i cry if i get hurt.
    i am a huMAN, yo.
     
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    no it don't make you less then a man because you cry
    it show that you as a man has feelings , we are human !
    we hurt like anyone , we bleed like anyone so why not cry
    like anyone , never shame to show my deep inner emotions
    even if it's sheading a tear.
     
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    CarrieMonet Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    hmmm, it's funny you both point out that you're human...like I'M the one saying you're less than a man if you cry.

    I was home early yesterday getting my computer fixed. A man was on Maury Povich crying because someone had given his daughter a black eye. The man who was fixing my computer said the guy was a punk for crying on national television...

    Which is what prompted the question. Maybe I should have said what do you think of OTHER men who you see crying in public?
     
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    I don't know man....I mean being raised in the South in general and Mississippi specifically we were raised that a man shouldn't cry and if he does it's something that hurts him to his soul..and that's what I still believe it's not manly to shed tears I've never cried in front of my kids and only in front of my wife once and that was when my Daddy died but crying because your daughter got a black eye I'm sorry that's punk....I'd be trying to get my daughter in a position to get some get back....but then again that's me...what do I know....I'm not the most sensitive man...but if another man wants to cry then that's on him....what can I say..nothing...

    Mississippi Red
     
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    His daughter had cerebal palsy, her nurse was beating her when no one was around.
     
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    Oh shhhhhhh now that's a different subject all together...man I'm hot just hearing that man.....I'd get Iraqi on an adult that did one of my liluns like that ...wouldn't even use a sharp knife ..I'd break out a old plastic butterknife and get to gettin it....it's some cold hearted folk in this world....

    Mississippi Red
     
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    The man was not a punk for that situation...that is tough to find out your child or anyone you love getting treated like that.

    I would try not to judge if I saw a man crying in public......unless there was no reason and he was being a sissy. :lol:

    I am from a family where that type of emotion was never shown and as a child, there was no benefit to showing such an emotion...so I dont react to pain and sadness that way....but to each their own.
     
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    Crying is the first step of breaking down the barrier of lack of communication.
     
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    Only if she misses her period.

    No, I don't cry that much. I actually haven't cried in years. Last time I did I was by myself anyways like 7 years ago. I don't think it's bad for men to cry though. Just not over a woman. :uhoh:
     
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