Black Parenting : Teaching Self-Defense to Our Kids

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If your child gets into a fight and is hit what option would you teach them?

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    If you're child is in a fight, and the aggressor hits your child, do you tell them to get up and walk away, or do you tell them to fight back?
     
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    peace

    I've taught mines since he was about 4 years old and even had him in a martial art's class for a while when he was 6 or 7. I taught him to walk away, if at all possible. I'm sure his other martial art's teacher did also. But, if they put their hands on you, you have to defend yourself until the person (s) stops wanting to fight you. Because if you don't, Everyone else is going to want to take a shot at you until you finally snap and really hurt somebody.

    Knowing that he's just like me really made it that much easier to teach him....

    I tell people all the time to enroll their kids, especially girls into a martial art school. Especially, if they are starting to talk back and develope attitude problems. The martial art's class will knock all of that out of them real quick....It worked for me. :)
     
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    I agree...walk away before it escalates...but I told my daughter if someone puts hands on you, you better fight back.
    I remember back in middle school I wasn't really much of a fighter back then, and I did the whole walking away thing and got jumped by these girls...So sometimes even walking away doesn't work...cause some bullies will end up following you and if you tell on them, it can get worse.

    But I think that's a good idea for putting your child is a self-defense program, it also teaches them self-discipline.
     
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    Exactly!

    Back in the day i really needed some self-discipline badly. I wasn't walking around looking for fight's or anything, but my attitude needed to be checked and martial art's did that quick fast and in a hurry....lol

    My son didn't have an attitude problem, so that's not why i put him in school. I just wanted him to be prepared for anything that might come his way.

    I've gotten jumped before by a drug dealer i had just knocked out, like 30 minutes prior on his block and walked away without a scratch and the one's doing the jumping walking away....
     
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    I need to put my daughter in martial arts program..she's told me she's wanted to, but I think she thinks she's going to learn how to be the Avatar the Last Air Bender or something LOL

    But I don't know if she has it in her to fight back or let alone win a fight, cause she's 100% girlie girl, however she does have this stuck up and bossy air about her which I know might piss people off later on....But overall I just hope she doesn't get into one at all if she can help it.
     
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    I think self-defense classes are good for children (boys and girls) and for women.
     
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    All the more reason to put her in one, IMO.

    1. She's interested in it for herself.

    2. Because she is so "girlie-girl" knowing how to defend herself from others who will take her "prissiness" for weakness is vital. ---We all know a "BULLY" will pick out whomever he or she feels is a weaker opponent, viewed as "prey" for the "kill." --- So, IMO, it's important that you teach her that, in spite of all her "DIVA-NESS," she better be prepared to "get down and dirty" if somebody puts their hands on her.
     
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    Yeah...plus it will give her some confidence as well...It'll be something to consider for summer activities.
     
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    Reporting the abuses i suffered at school to mama got me fighting back, she just asked me flatly if i wanted her to go fight my fight for me? The good lessons we learnt very young help us as we grow as adults.
    Thanks sis your posts took me way back.....refreshing.
     
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    Walk away but if the person attacks, self defense is a must.
    What martial arts does she practice? I'd recommend Judo or BJJ. These are very effective martial arts and it teaches how to actually submit somebody without necessarily harming them. Judo is more for men though while BJJ is ideal for the weaker sex and people generally physically not very strong. I've seen a woman flying arm bar a huge guy and made him cry like a baby while he tapped.

    For a girl I wouldn't recommend boxing, karate and the likes. Wrestling is also good.
     
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