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Destee said:Sister Riada ... i don't want you to bow out. I'm just presenting this for discussion and consideration. I could be totally wrong, and if so, i want to hear those arguments as well. It's not like i can prove what i'm saying will benefit us collectively, but i think it can.
I'm suggesting, maybe there is more to this than meets the eye.
This discussion is about us loving ourselves, our hair in particular, that which we've been told, is our crown and glory. That which we spend billions of dollars, and hundreds of hours on each year, to chemically alter. Yes, on the surface it might appear to be a trivial thing, yet it manifests itself across the landscape for all to see, from the richest to the poorest of Black Women.
It may mean absolutely nothing, that Mothers virtually teach their daughters that they are not pretty as they are, by chemically changing their hair, soon after birth (we're the only ones that do this). It may be of no consequence at all, that there are no commercials or advertisements with little Black Girls (or Black Adult Women) with their naturally coiled hair, even though we're all born with it. The fact that there are no Black women, in any great number, on television, in the news, or anywhere to be seen ... that represent us (publicly) in our natural beauty, could just be happenstance. This could all simply be coincidence, and mean absolutely nothing, with no adverse effect on us collectively. I'm willing to consider these arguments.
Or it could mean something. I think it means something. I think there is a telling story in this manifestation that we are all witnessing. Walking around with hair blowing in the wind, down to our behinds, like we were born with it. Is this fake? Is this phony? Does that make us fake and phony? Or have we been convinced that it is "just beauty and fashion," with no underlying psychological issues motivating the choices? When most Black Families are struggling to survive, we spend BILLIONS on our hair, to make it look other than what we were born with. I think this means something Sister, more than fashion and beauty. If nothing else, it tells us clearly, that we are not beautiful (as we are) ... which is terrible ... in my opinion, for us to continue putting this on our BEAUTIFUL BLACK DAUGHTERS for any reason, to get a man, or otherwise!
Our loving our own selves may not reap the harvest that i envision, but it has to do some good, more than what is being done now, by hiding our real selves. I'm willing to give on this. Willing to say, okay, it's not the end all and be all solution, to our problems, but to what degree might it help us?
If we could do it, do you think it would hurt us or help us (in any way)?
Are you saying this is not telling information about Black Women?
Are you saying this has nothing to do with how Black Women view themselves and their Daughters?
Are you saying that teaching little Black Girls to love themselves, won't affect how little Black Boys love them?
We don't have to agree Sister, i just want us to begin looking at it objectively, if possible.