Black Relationships : Teach M.E. tonite!

[truetothecause]

i will try to make this as plain as possible (eventhough you know i can't do that. i'm a poet/philo-/rapper/teacher/student/...). when a woman and man interact, the first and foremost thing is 'who cracks at who first'. then, it goes to 'why are you interested'. third, (most women immediately want to know the length of the relation [ship] and keep that to themselves) let him/ her know the level of attraction and why (the second step). example: I'm really diggin' you because you have a fat *** and i would love to take you home tonight. Some say women like this talk. Only because it is straight forward and they might be looking for a piece of *** too. Last but, not least, a good man is only as good as you are to yourself. Bad men are everywhere.

p.s. so are bad women, hmmmmm.

Hotep Sha'yn
and Thanks for sharing!

Yes, I asked this question after visiting one, the tiredblackmen site. Listening to them rant how black women don't "choose" the "good black men" and two, after meeting a young man who expressed interest. Yet, his talk was all about staring into each others eyes and I could see right away he was interested in da booty.

It was based on his comments during that initial meeting. These types can be spotted a mile away yet, I'm curious nowadays, how "good men" present themselves.

Times are NOT like they were 20 years ago. The last person I allowed in my life ..well...he did not come off like it was just about sex. He/We shared similiar interest in terms of cultural ideologies and long term goal of repatriation. That was the "hook" for me...then I found out he was not really able to appreciate my intellect and seemed to only want what he could get from me. He was of Jamaician descent and i think they are the biggest pimps around.

I also believe with the whole movement of women working outside the home out of neccessity are also expected to work in the home doing all those 'womanly" things like taking care of the cooking, cleaning etc as a "housewife" allow the man to be the man. Yet, what does that mean anymore?

Alright, I don't want to get too lengthy and really want to "talk" and tell my story by filling in some blanks in an attempt to make myself "plain".
I am a philosopher and can go on at length and like to give as many details as possible. This medium does not support me in doing that.

 

[truetothecause]

exhibit #1

http://destee.com/forums/showthread.php?t=50921

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

exhibit #1

http://destee.com/forums/showthread.php?t=50921

right now, i have been doing a lot of study and meditation and work. i have not been thinking about male/female stuff or anything like that.
as to pimps, i do know what one is, but i have no contact with those types of people anymore. why would i want to?

i expect a grown black woman to know how to deal with a man. people are quite deceitful as to what they are about.
it is the woman's job to see through that bull and make the right choice.
if you have a problem, i suggest withdrawing from the game.

FWIW - when you get to be my age you may find that you do not remember every thing that you said. it be like that.

 

[truetothecause]

right now, i have been doing a lot of study and meditation and work. i have not been thinking about male/female stuff or anything like that.
as to pimps, i do know what one is, but i have no contact with those types of people anymore. why would i want to?

i expect a grown black woman to know how to deal with a man. people are quite deceitful as to what they are about.
if you have a problem, i suggest with drawing from the game.

when you get to be my age you may find that you do not remember every thing that you said. it be like that.

Ok....I can appreciate what it's like "at your age"

"expectations are a setup for resentment" is a widely held belief in the rooms of recovery. You may or may not know that.

People ARE deceitful as to what they are about and therefore...who can TRUST anyone:?:

I have "withdrawn" from the "game" and no longer believe in "happily ever after" as it relates to intimate partner relationships with a black man..therefore...I will have NO man. I'm working to accept this in my life as a grown woman of 47 years.

And you know James, you are in my fathers generation and he was the first "pimp" in my life. So forgive M.E. if I have not gotten it right yet.
I give up, I quit, I'm no longer interested in "playing" the game. OK I GOT IT


Also, while I started this thread asking this question, please overstand that there may be many not so "grown woman" who may be interested in learning a trick or two.

 

[jamesfrmphilly]

i must say that i am a poor one to talk because the whole sex and female thing is not on my mind these days.

there are so may deceitful men out there. i know that. i must say that there are some upright brothers out there too. the men at the khemetic center that i frequent are all trying to be positive. we are all studying together trying to get to that next level. there are very few sisters there. only occasionally does one come in.

on the spiritual and cultural scene there are cats out there who have no woman. you sisters pass them by.
there are bad men and there good men out there. the good cats claim that they get passed by.
the sisters have to grow up and make a better choice.