- Feb 26, 2007
Sha'iyn said:i will try to make this as plain as possible (eventhough you know i can't do that. i'm a poet/philo-/rapper/teacher/student/...). when a woman and man interact, the first and foremost thing is 'who cracks at who first'. then, it goes to 'why are you interested'. third, (most women immediately want to know the length of the relation [ship] and keep that to themselves) let him/ her know the level of attraction and why (the second step). example: I'm really diggin' you because you have a fat *** and i would love to take you home tonight. Some say women like this talk. Only because it is straight forward and they might be looking for a piece of *** too. Last but, not least, a good man is only as good as you are to yourself. Bad men are everywhere.
p.s. so are bad women, hmmmmm.
and Thanks for sharing!
Yes, I asked this question after visiting one, the tiredblackmen site. Listening to them rant how black women don't "choose" the "good black men" and two, after meeting a young man who expressed interest. Yet, his talk was all about staring into each others eyes and I could see right away he was interested in da booty.
It was based on his comments during that initial meeting. These types can be spotted a mile away yet, I'm curious nowadays, how "good men" present themselves.
Times are NOT like they were 20 years ago. The last person I allowed in my life ..well...he did not come off like it was just about sex. He/We shared similiar interest in terms of cultural ideologies and long term goal of repatriation. That was the "hook" for me...then I found out he was not really able to appreciate my intellect and seemed to only want what he could get from me. He was of Jamaician descent and i think they are the biggest pimps around.
I also believe with the whole movement of women working outside the home out of neccessity are also expected to work in the home doing all those 'womanly" things like taking care of the cooking, cleaning etc as a "housewife" allow the man to be the man. Yet, what does that mean anymore?
Alright, I don't want to get too lengthy and really want to "talk" and tell my story by filling in some blanks in an attempt to make myself "plain".
I am a philosopher and can go on at length and like to give as many details as possible. This medium does not support me in doing that.