Black Relationships : Teach M.E. tonite!

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  1. truetothecause

    truetothecause Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Teach M.E. tonite

    Greetings! ImHotep!

    To all the Brothers, Warrior Kings, Tired and Energized, Men of Afreekan Descent (M.A,D.):love:

    Can you help a Sistah out?

    I'd like to know EXACTLY what makes a "GOOD MAN"
    I mean, say...I'm out at the mall, or on a call, or out taking a stoll, or sitting in an indoor cafe having tea to chase away the cold...

    I see you, you see me. We want to take if further..

    HOW will I KNOW that YOU are a "GOOD" man:?:

    What are the things you SAY
    What are the things you DO

    Feel Free to compare with the PIMP

    How will I know the difference:?:

    Be as specific as possible please.

    What makes a man a "GOOD" man


    Listening to Learn and Learning to Listen~ Abena....M.E.

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  2. jamesfrmphilly

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    as a black woman, you are supposed to know this already...
     
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    Your purpose for him.
    (I know it sounds cold:SuN028: but thats just on the surface )
    You know what makes you happy and or at peace (I'm assuming).
    Peace and happiness is/should be everyone's goal on a conscious level. If it isn't then:happens: or can happen B4 you realize where you are headed on your map (your life). (e.g. the wrong turns ppl make when they believe the goal in life is too make alot of money......... if you sit back and watch them they can provide a good laugh, but most of the time it's sad :( )

    What does your man, or prospective man, need to be so that he may not impede on your life goals or even better, help you with your life goals.


    You may have everything now and just need someone responsible enough to share it with.:qqb010:

    "I see you, you see me. We want to take if further..

    HOW will I KNOW that YOU are a "GOOD" man"


    Ahh :em3600: TIME,TIMEand moreTIME (your mental notations of his actions/movements from a/some fixed reference point)
    my humble advice........
    don't be too judge-mental of the ''why'' of his actions be more focused on if those actions will interfere with your life goals.

    (for example his need to watch the game, hang with the fellas from time to time, improving on his ride, or entertainment music and/or video equipment, make that perfect song (hood banger), find the "Last Dragon" martial art stage or if you run into that guy whose bent on building that time machine, just let him be a man)
    (my particular goal is world domination so my wife is just gonna have to deal with it!!! and in turn I'll make sure I take out the garbage on schedule) you may not understand the why from your prospective of your lives and you wouldn't want to impede on his/your freedom to pursue their goal in life (from a ''I am you, and you are me'' point of view)

    Peace
     
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    Medase Pa for sharing!.
    :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown:

    I'm on da run right now and PLAN to come back to this.

    Till next time...

    Stay Safe and Strong in the Struggle for I/Unity

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  5. truetothecause

    truetothecause Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    yeah well.."supposed" is the key word here. Maybe I don't. And I learned..
    "if you DON'T KNOW you better ask smaddy".

    If I knew...I prolly would not have "chosen" pimps

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    my humble advice........
    don't be too judge-mental of the ''why'' of his actions be more focused on if those actions will interfere with your life goals.


    Yes...judge-mental-ness is problematic...impo
    yet...i DO need to "judge" his "Behaviors" in order to know the difference between "good man" vs. "pimp"

    How do I KNOW the difference?

    Yes...it IS about the "sharing" that I am interested in...Him sharing with M.E. and M.E. with him.

    "I show you love, you show me love" (Sister Joyce, H.Y.P.O.C.R.I.S.Y.)

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    What is your definition of a pimp?
     
  7. truetothecause

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    Well...I think jamesfrmphilly can best answer that question...especially as it RE~lates to the BE~haviors of some M.A.D.

    I would venture to say tho....words like "thug", "baller", "player" comes to mind..and the BE~haviors associated with same.

    blackman (or any other) who become involved in intimate relationships with woman for the sole purpose of taking what they can get for selves and not giving in return.

    Is this right Jamesfrmphilly:?:

    and yes..this would be my definition....a taker of emotional, physical, economic, resources and giving little to none in return. They may and typically do, count the physical (i.e the penis) contribution sufficient while taking ALL from the woman.

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    how would i know? i do not know any pimps. i don't roll like that.

    i gave up on the hookup world some time ago. i am not on that level right now.
    if you are choosing pimps then you need to chose differently. go where the good men are.
     
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    ssl or sorry so long

    i will try to make this as plain as possible (eventhough you know i can't do that. i'm a poet/philo-/rapper/teacher/student/...). when a woman and man interact, the first and foremost thing is 'who cracks at who first'. then, it goes to 'why are you interested'. third, (most women immediately want to know the length of the relation [ship] and keep that to themselves) let him/ her know the level of attraction and why (the second step). example: I'm really diggin' you because you have a fat *** and i would love to take you home tonight. Some say women like this talk. Only because it is straight forward and they might be looking for a piece of *** too. Last but, not least, a good man is only as good as you are to yourself. Bad men are everywhere.

    p.s. so are bad women, hmmmmm.
     
  10. truetothecause

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    And this is the stuff the suppports cultural schziophrenia.

    Of course, I need to go back and find all the threads where I have heard you comment on the "pimps" and being pimped.

    How would you know? I remember YOU asking M.E. if I knew what a pimp was. Yet now you say you have no recollection:qqb005:

    and that you are on a "different level".

    Me "choosing" pimps. No...I have been just "choosing" to let go of baggage and "choose" to TRUST men who LIE, LIE, LIE.

    Crazy making.

    Thanks for sharing

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