Black People : Struggling with my new job and co-workers.

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    So I am no longer substituting in the school district. I thought it was about time I find a job with better pay, and so I did. The first month was cool, the girl who hired me and is training me was cool. But I have this boss who gives me the cold-shoulder for no reason at all. I have never done anything to this man, I've been to work and done my job, but I almost get the sense he doesn't care for me because of my skin.
    There is another co-worker at my job who is also black, but he works out in the warehouse. And my boss wants him fired and gone, but my co-worker misses a lot of work and smokes in the warehouse and wrecks equipment and messes up orders. Which I think is a cause to let someone go. But my boss cannot fire him because he is not under direct authority with him, but someone else.
    Whenever I (try) talk to my boss he will never look at me and he always tries to rush me out of his office when I come in there to file something away. If there is an issue that concerns my help or assistance he won't tell me about but instead tells other people which doesn't help the situation since I'm the one whose job it concerns.
    Now he smiles and jokes with the other ladies in the office (whom are white) but I'm just a fly on the wall.
    I don't seek this mans friendship or anything, I just want some communication and acknowledgement in order to get what work I need done.
    And I do not like coming to work always feeling like I'm stepping on egg shells.
    Now, this guy has said some pretty crazy stuff about people's other races. Last Friday, he got of the phone with our company's accountant, whom is Chinese, and made fun of how he talked and called him the "Little China Man"...and he's also made comments about the Mexican co-workers in another warehouse.
    I don't want to quit my job on the grounds of this man possibly and probably being a total bigot.
    But I really hate working with anyone like that.
    What should I do?
     
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    What should you do? Nothing!

    Keep your head down and try to do your job well! Remember you are there to work, not to socialise. Therefore, if you keep yourself busy, you'll be too preoccupied with work to even notice anything odd about this man's attitude towards you.
     
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    Like I said in my original statement...I'm not there to be his friend...I have to speak with him in order to do parts of my job...I have to interact with him.
     
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    be perfect. Do your job. Move forward in your knowledge and productivity each week.
    Your boss is insecure, which is why he says those things about other races of people.
    Race leaps from mouths when they are feeling insecure. Your first thought was he
    didn't like you because you were black.. It might be true.. it probably is, but there are
    a host of other reasons why he may not like you. But, unless it's important for him to
    like you, don't trip.. just do your job. The only way you will gain social acceptance from
    a guy like that is make him feel comfortable in his bigotry by chiming in and joining the
    ridicule of one of the other groups. If he says something about mexicans, he's offering you
    an opportunity to join him in ridiculing them.. it'll make him more comfortable to know
    that you are not some super-sensitive black chic that will probably bring him up on charges
    if he says something racist or sexist..
     
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    he is a racist.
    the thing is to not let his issue become your issue.
    do your job and keep away from him. if it is a total bad environment just keep looking.
     
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    You do you. Let your work speak for itself.
    Also remember that if he's speaking about another race like that behind their back, what's he saying behind yours. Since it's a job, and it's not a requirement for you all to "like" each other, just exchange the pleasantries, give a smile or two when necessary, and just keep on doing your job exceptionally. In the end, it's up to you to decide if you need to speak up, and if it'll be worth it. For the most part though, he'll be the one who loses out on probably good company & conversation from/by you.
     
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    Remember you are the new girl who has to learn to fit in. Not the other way round. This means you will have to learn to cope with whatever comes your way. According to you, he interacts well with the other workers so he is obviously a team player. That being the case, letting your lack of interaction with the gentleman affect you as you are telling us, does not bode well for your longevity at the job. You have to find ways of rising above whatever you think of the man. Because if you don't, any negative feelings you harbour towards him will begin to surface eventually. If this creates tension in the workplace, you don't need to be a brain surgeon to know, who the management will retain and whose appointment they will terminate.

    Please keep your head down and do your job well. Good Luck!
     
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    Wow MsInterpret, I can definitely relate to this one, too many times.

    I'd suggest that when your boss gives instructions to others about a task you're responsible for, that you approach him directly advising him you'd like to confirm the details of this project/task and should he have any concerns, feel free to let you know and you'd glady work with him on it. There's nothing wrong with being direct, but courteous. As far as his apprehension to dialogue with you, he may always interact with you on this level, as his feelings run deeper than you can speak to, which you already acknowledged. However, I'd continue to perform at my best, and reverse the stigma you're battling against...unfortunately, in THEIR eyes WE are guilty until proven innocent...so keep operating to the higher standards as you have, overlook his ignorance and consider this an oppportunity to educate a fool, lol..that's really what we're doing underneath it all. Keep your head up because the cold shoulders mean you're intimidating, they see you and realize how they interact with each other, won't be tolerated with you, which is a compliment really. But ultimately, I would keep myself positioned on a level where he must deal with me, do not make it easy for him to run circles around you.

    Peace and Blessings!
     
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    sister...... leap above his foolishness , sure he might not like you because he see in you all your
    great qualities the power you process as a strong black woman , stay focus on your job /what
    you do and worry not what he think say or do because in the long run he will be the villan.

    you there for a living and as you said not friendship you can inner act without accepting bull
    or being caught up in some , this not new we all in the work force has been through such
    feelings / dealing with our Boss foolishness.......sis stay strong keep moving forward and with
    your head up high as well proud.
     
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    Thank you everyone for you input and encouragement. I'm not used to this, being that my last boss was black and looked out for me in an environment that was much similar to this...He was pretty much like a shield that guarded me against this nonsense.
     
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