Black People : Street Psychology: A Simple System for Improving Relationships in Everyday Life

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  1. Knowledge Seed

    Knowledge Seed Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Have you ever felt like someone didn't understand you? Or, maybe, you didn't understand them?

    Have there been instances in your life where you immediately connected with another person?

    I'll be laying out a system so simply a baby could understand it.

    WARNING: This system is so powerful, it will enable you to easily manipulate others. I ask that you employ your highest moral standards when using what I call "Street Psychology".

    Lets get started.

    The first step is understanding what are call "Personality Colors".

    There are only 4 Personality Colors. That makes it pretty simple, right?

    The 4 Personality Colors are: Red, Blue, Green and Yellow.

    Lets make this a little more interactive.

    Take out sheet of paper.

    Draw a line down the middle of the paper.

    At the top of the paper, write "Open".

    At the bottom of the paper, write "Self-contained".

    Now, draw a line from left to right on that same paper.

    On the left side of the paper, write "Indirect".

    On the right side of the paper, write "Direct".

    You should now have 4 quadrants.

    In the top left hand quadrant, put "Yellow," which make up 35% of the population.

    In the bottom left hand quadrant, put "Green," which make up 35% of the population.

    In the top right hand quadrant, put "Blue," which make up 15% of the population.

    In the bottom right hand quadrant, put "Red," which make up 15% of the population.

    When you're finished, your paper should look something like this:
    http://www.docstoc.com/docs/document-preview.aspx?doc_id=9438704 (Sorry I couldn't embed it)

    Now, lets get into the characteristics and "hot buttons" - or what like to call "Magic Words" - of each personality. As a matter of fact, lets also touch on occupations.

    Magic Words:
    Yellows- Help, contribute, assist, feel, care,
    Blues- Fun, excellent, awesome, travel, new,
    Reds- Money, power,
    Greens- Information, research

    Characteristics:
    Yellows- caring, helpful, always answers questions indirectly,
    Blues- animated speakers, always talk, love bright colors
    Reds- all about the money, likes to be the boss, wants to be in charge, loves competition, and loves recognition
    Greens- very analytical, good with numbers, great planners/organizers,

    What to say:
    Yellows- talk about their family and helping people
    Blues- talk about having fun, traveling, meeting people, having freedom, etc
    Reds- talk about big money, being your own boss, getting recognized for your success, buying flashy cars, etc
    Greens- Financial information, statistics, history, etc

    Occupations:
    Yellows- nurses, therapists, volunteer work
    Blues- sales
    Reds- Politicians, doctors, company executives, etc
    Greens- CPAs, Engineers, mathematicians, scientist etc

    If you decide to put all of this information onto your paper, it should look something like this:
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    Which personality are you?
     
  2. Knowledge Seed

    Knowledge Seed Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Fundamental techniques in handling people
    Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain

    Always show sincere appreciation of others

    Arouse an eager want in a person. View things from another person’s perspective

    Ways to make people like you
    Become genuinely interested in other people

    Smile

    Remember that a person’s name is to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

    Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

    Talk in terms of the other person's interest.

    Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely

    How to win people to your way of thinking
    Avoid arguing with others

    Show respect for other people's opinions. Never say “You're wrong”

    If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically

    When talking with people, begin in a friendly way

    Get the other person saying 'yes, yes' immediately

    Let the other person do a great deal of the talking

    Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers

    Try, honestly, to see things from another person's point of view

    Be sympathetic to the other person's ideas and desires

    Appeal to nobler motives

    Dramatize your ideas

    Throw down a challenge

    Be a leader: How to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment
    Begin with praise and honest appreciation

    Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly

    Talk about your mistakes before criticizing the other person

    Ask questions instead of giving direct orders

    Let the other person save face

    Praise even the slightest improvement

    Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to

    Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct

    Make the other person happy by doing the thing you suggest


    Rules for making the home life happier
    Don't nag

    Don't try to make your partner over. Let them be themselves.

    Don't criticize

    Give honest appreciation

    Pay little attentions

    Be courteous

    Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage
     
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    Kamau47 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I am all and none.
    I have learned to not be catagorized because I am a little of everything. When I take a look at myself honestly, I see that I am fluid, changing from one moment to the next according to the situation and enviornmemt surrounding me.
    But I do understand your post, and find it very helpful & enlightening.
     
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