Do you spank your children? For those who do, do you agree with the concept to not spank your children if you are angry? If a child does something that pisses you off, how else are you supposed to feel prior to spanking them?
The best thing to do is to calm down before you spank.
Get your emotions under control so you're not just
whaling away at the child, taking out
all your anger, hurt or even fear out on the child.
IMO, that's when a parent crosses the line between "discipline" and "abuse."
One time in my own childhood, after I had done something
very stupid and potentially dangerous, my mother was
very upset with me and was also extremely emotional because I had scared her for my safety and life. (NOTE: "ONE TIME.) lol
So, after she had ascertained that I was not dead or hurt, she informed me of her mental and emotional state, "
I PROMISE you this @ss-whoopin! But, I've got to calm down first cuz if I hit you NOW, I'll KILL ya!"
It took her several DAYS to keep her "promise," but when she DID, I NEVA, EVA, EVA thought about doing that again! (lol)...Couldn't nobody PAY me to do it again! (lol) --That was the worst whoopin of my LIFE! (lol)
And, of course, she prolly ALSO was beating me for some OTHER stuff that she had previously let me "slide" on.
So, it was "catch-up time" on my behind! (lol)
You know how the old ones say, "
Imma gitcha for the OLD and the NEW!"