Destee
Brother Ralfa'il ... i sincerely appreciate the love, confidence, and compliments you've given me ... thank you ...
but you are so full of yourself !!!!!
what the hey are you talking about ... i'm ultra attractive to you ???!!!
i don't think you know what kind of woman you want, or how to recognize her if you see her!
you said the following:
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Originally Posted by Ralfa'il
I'm sorry....
But if you're a strong independant woman, I have no need for you.
uhhhh Brother Ralfa'il ... i am a strong independent woman! ... duhhhh !!!!
First of all, what I found ultra-attractive was that you allowed some of your heart to open up and admit that you sometimes get discouraged and disheartened.
You admit that you have your weak moment, and I like it when women show a soft side.
Thanx for your response sis, but I'd like to respectfully disagree that you are a strong and independant woman.
That's not saying that you are a wimp or a pushover, but just fitting within your nature.
You are an intelligent and industrious woman mature of mind but that doesn't necessarily make you strong and independant in the common definition of the term. You obviously need love and support from others to keep going.
Look what you gave us of yourself:
"I was blessed with the most wonderful "Forum Leader." Her name was (is) Bree and she made working for her and the community such a joy. I felt like she was my Sister/Mother/Friend all wrapped up in one. So, when it came time for me to leave, telling her was very difficult. I didn't want to put her in a bind or disappoint her in any way. I stayed as long as i could, but the time finally came when i had to tell her it was time for me to move on."
Most strong hard-core independant men and women are so focused on building a career and climbing socially and financially that they could care less about leaving a person they've worked with. It's just anothe stepping stone as far as they're concerned.
They wouldn't have been so emotional and careful to please a friend in this manner regardless of what that friend did for them; trust me...I've met plenty of cold callous independant people.
and you know what else ... i said gosh up there ... but i can say a whole bunch of other stuff too !!!! ... just because you've never seen me carry on any other way ... does not mean i never have!
you feel me ???
Oh...I should "step back" because I don't KNOW you like that?
Come on sis....sure you could have used other words and be stone cold, but you haven't because it's not what you want to do.
Again, it's not in your nature to behave that way and that's what I mean.
You are mindful of your behavior and speech, and that's what we need.
so ... while i appreciate the comments ... please recognize that you can't judge a book by its cover ... all of my Sisters are models of Black Femininity !!!!
How can you say ALL sisters are models of black femininity?
I appreciate the love you have for all black people but I bet everyday driving you see women of ALL races that you wouldn't be caught dead dressing and behaving like.
That doesn't give anyone an automatic right to disrespect them or even condemn them. But as a young prospective black man, don't I have a right to expect more from my young women in general?
Shouldn't I want the best that I can get from them in behavior and ettiquette?
... and let me say too ... that when a woman meets a man ... a man that moves and excites her ... she will often give up saying and doing a whole lotta things ... and start saying and doing brand new stuff ... as a result of that complimentary motivation! In addition, the very things you say you don't want in a woman, let the right woman bring those things ... and you'll be asking for extra servings of that stuff!
uhhh ... did i say thank you for the compliments ...
Love You!
You're right...I've met plenty of women who had so many wonderful positives that I chose to overlook thier negatives. Nobody's perfect, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't strive for perfection.
I love you too my caring, open-hearted, dependant on a loving family...sista.
...how she gonna sit up there and tell me who I'm attracted to?