Black People : Some people find this STRANGE. I don't but...

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  1. Ionlyspeaktruth

    Ionlyspeaktruth Banned

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    I am in the process of helping my ex girlfriends son with college. His mother and I do not like each other but I dont think that matters. I would talk to her but she has been very nasty towards me in the past. (I do say hello to her) however, I consider him a son to me and NEVER speak bad about her to him. his mom and I have a mutual friend who thinks I am nuts! (who me?):laugh: but I dont think that one relationship has anything to do with another. Ok, I know I am a little shall we say "different" but is this so off base?
     
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    MRS. LADY Banned MEMBER

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    To be a positive in young man's life...... go for what you know!
     
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    MenNefer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Simply Commendable

    I think you will/have become an excellent role model for that young man which appears to be unconditional support.
     
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    this sounds very commendable in this day and age to want to help a young man get ahead who's not related to you,sounds like what we as black men should be doing more of...cudos to you.
     
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    Logically speaking it is not off base. You can't be a boyfriend to everyone's mother that you help. If that is a requirement for you helping someone I'm telling you right now my mother has a boyfriend. :)

    He is a person that you have found interest in helping and he needs help. More of us should help each other. Now, if he doesn't want you to help him then any assistance you attempt to give him ain't gonna be viewed by him as help. And may even be viewed as harm. As long as he wants your assistance and you can minimize conflict in your interaction with his mother it's all good...so to speak.
     
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    Ionlyspeaktruth Banned

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    He is a good kid. He is 17 and always says "yes sir", "Yes maam". Very respectful. I call and get calls from his high school even though he is many miles away. This is what I was talking about when I brought up my "polygamy" post. Folks think wrong about many things. However in my mind children are always innocent.
     
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    I think is it very commendable, and also realistic - if you've developed a (positive) close relationship with the boy it should be maintained regardless of the circumstances with the ex- and allowed to run it's own course.

    More mothers need to be aware when introducing their children to their new partners etc - she lucked out with you :)
     
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    Not at all off base , what you are doing is wonderful and great to a young
    man life , he will honor you and respect you with the most high

    whatever between you and her shouldn't come between you and him
    Go for it and Good Luck being a father figure in his life .
     
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