One of the main problems with relationships ending between non-white (black) males and non-white (black) females is their ability to solve problems. We never know what to expect from each other because we have been trained to misuse and abuse each other. We've bee ntaught to just accept a person as they are...with all of their faults and all of their inconsistencies. But that doesn't work which is the reason non-white males and females keep breaking up. There is only so much we can "accept". Below is a primitive effort at coming up with a problem solving strategy that allows for both people to voice their opinions about the problem, carefully listen to each other, voice their opinion about how to solve the problem, come to an agreement, and also leave room for improvement inthe future. But it needs refinement. If you so choose, please help to refine this process, without argument with each other, by voicing which part of it doesn't work and why. Also, please voice which part of this process does work and why. Thank you.