So...I've known this Woman for around 5 years or so. We have always gotten along very well, and between the two of us we both have sort've been feeling each others vibe but haven't really came out and told one another. Well last summer, she had got married, and of course I wasn't invited yet let her tell it, it just slipped her mind to invite my family and I. I wasn't trippin, heck I was happy for her. Well their union spiraled out of control, and I could tell because it was then that she would come through to visit more often then she had in previous times. I met the Brother plenty, cool dude he seemed to be... but I have learned that he is very abusive after he's had some drink. I know of his past, and background best from what she has told me. Me being me, and a good friend of hers, coupled with the fact I'm digging her, I am there for her when she needs me to be... I don't push any issue about me liking her, because though they go through their problems, I can and will only be a friend to them both. Well she told dude she wants a divorce and I can tell because she goes on dates with other Men, nothing serious but... She's done. MY Thing is though... I now want to be there for this dude. (No homo) He's a young cat, 8 years younger than his wife (my friend) I went through a counseling session when my ex wife and I were getting a divorce and although I didn't resort to substance abuse to deal with it, I can feel what hes about to go through and where he could be headed if he keeps drinking. He has lost his job, went to jail, as a matter of fact he's there now for acting up with her. So most likely wont have a place to stay once he's out. In my counseling I met quite a few guys who were gone through similar issues as he is going through. I been there to an extent, I'm all better now though lol.. and feel that in those classes we as Men helped each other get better by recognizing that through talking out our issues we could have healthy living by changing our actions, behaviors and what not. So, I really want to help this young Brother, and become a friend of his. We get along from what I can tell, yet she has stated a few times he questions why her and I are soo close and asked her, not me if I like her, and if we ever had anything going on prior to their marriage. Her and I had went out recently, just as friends but had you not known we were just that, you could probably think we had a connection or were together... We were hugged up a little and she did let me know that she likes me more than just that. A score some would say, I relayed to her that the feeling was mutual... Who wouldn't feel flattered, ya know? She's worried that he won't want the divorce and will contest it. I have asked her if she thought they could wotk it out, according to her he is very jealous, can be controlling, and accuses her of being too friendly. I know this stems from his insecurities and possibly past relationships failures, its almost like I'm seeing the weaknesses I experienced myself at one time, till I found myself and gained confidence in knowing that sort of thinking only cripples you and your mind. Sigh... I think though its best that I cool my jets, and sit down and talk with her, and assure her that I will always ride for her no doubt, but that it would be the most beneficial for us both to remain only as awesome friends. I really want to help this Brother fix these issues within himself, and how could or would i be able to if I am with his Woman? Not sure if he will accept my friendship in that way, or my willingness to help him...I just feel I need to at least try... We shall see.