Black Relationships : Sisters Suddenly Want a Guy Like Barack???

[Kemetstry]

Women seeking: A man like Barack Obama

Have you found your Barack? President is new code for Prince Charming
Obama has touched a nerve among black women in particular, who consider him an IBM (Ideal Black Man) — educated, eloquent, tall, attractive, family oriented, ambitious and down to earth.
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By Megan K. Scott


updated 4:37 p.m. ET, Wed., June 17, 2009
NEW YORK - Monica Weeks has met many men, but at age 51 she says she still hasn't found her "Barack."

Among Weeks and her friends, President Barack Obama's name has become shorthand for a black man with integrity, character and spirituality, one who loves and values his wife and makes his family a priority — in other words, the kind of man that many black women had despaired of finding.

Weeks said probably every single woman she knows is looking for her "Barack."

"He absolutely makes me think it's attainable," said Weeks, a divorced mom in Somerset, N.J. "For women who are older and seeking a man, I think we can look at him and say, 'All is not lost.'"

The story is the same elsewhere among black women, who say the new code word for Prince Charming has become so commonplace that they have been asked "Have you found your Barack?" or told others "I'm looking for my Barack."

Obama's sex appeal hasn't hurt — what other president would get high marks in a swimsuit competition? But he has touched a nerve among black women in particular, who consider him an IBM (Ideal Black Man) — educated, eloquent, tall, attractive, family oriented, ambitious and down to earth

A good man is hard to find
For years, single black women have been commiserating about the perceived shortage of eligible black men. It's laughed about in movies ("Waiting to Exhale") and backed up with statistics: The May unemployment rate for black men was 16.8 percent for those ages 20 and older, compared to a national rate of 9.8 percent for all adult men. Black women outnumber black men almost 2-to-1 on college campuses. Most black babies are born to unwed mothers.

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[Jahari Kavi]

in the words of eddie griffin....."what happened to the days where a sister would just fall in love wit a n**** wit a bus pass???"

 

[Kemetstry]

in the words of eddie griffin....."what happened to the days where a sister would just fall in love wit a n**** wit a bus pass???"

LMAO

Looong gone apparently. But at least they are looking at us again. The guy with the bus pass may be some struggling future president

 

[snugli360]

SNUGLI360

I AM SPEAKING FOR MANY OF WOMEN BY NATURE THEN BY EXPERIENCE.I LOVE MY BLACK MAN,DO BLACK MEN LOVE THEMSELVES? THIS IS A FIRST FOR ME TO HEAR THAT BLACK WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR A BARACK MAN. LET ME SPEAK FOR ME AS A WOMAN.I AM A HUMBLE WOMAN HAVE DATED VARIOUS MEN, IN SO DOING HAVE FOUND THAT YOU CAN DATE A BLACK MAN WHEN HE IS DOWN BEING THE STRENGHT THAT HE NEEDS WHILE HE STRUGGLES ONCE THINGS LOOK UP HE'S OUT THE DOOR WITH SOMEONE ELSE BE IT A DIFFERENT RACE. US WOMEN GO THROUGH SO MUCH TRYING TO BE THAT LOVE AND SUPPORT FOR HER MAN WHEN HE OBTAIN HIS GOALS SHE IS SOMETIMES LEFT ALONE WHILE HE GOES AND LIVE THE GOOD LIFE WITH SOMEONE ELSE THAT WASN'T THERE TO CONSOLE HIM WHEN HE FELT LESS OF A MAN CAUSE HE DIDN'T HAVE ANY MONEY,SELF ESTEEM,LITERACY,ETC WE AS WOMEN HAVE BEEN DEALT OUR FAIR SHARE OF CARDS TRYING TO BE UNDERSTANDING TO BROTHERS AND THE STRUGGLE.I DON'T BLAME BLACK WOMEN FOR SETTING STANDARDS OF WHAT THEIR IDEAL MAN MUST MEASURE UP TO BE.

 

[mizjoice]

i feel you snugli360, and I did read the article. I don't feel that black women are looking specifically for their 'Barack', at least, not specifically equipped with the attributes that were described. (A brother with a bus card can still get some play!) The quality that Barack displays that I would love to see more evident in Black Relationships is his obvious love for his wife. Barack is in love with Michelle, doesn't mind holding her hand (anywhere), makes no bones about the fact that that is his woman, his lover, his wife. He don't care where they are, or who's around--it's something just electric between them, that you can plainly see. I can't speck for other black women, but for me, that is just so cool!!!!

To my sistah Snugli, quiet as it is kept, there are probably some brothers looking for their 'Michelle'. What I mean by that is Michelle was going on about her life when she met Barack. She had her own education, her own career, her own stuff going on. My aunt used to say, "teach a man a,b,c.........he won't be back until he needs to learn d,e,f." (My brothers: don't lynch me--like I said, my aunt used to say that!) Sometimes we can support the aspirations of others without supporting our own dreams and aspirations--that is usually a bad move. If like attracts like, become who you wish to attract, and he (or she) will surely come. It seems to have happened for the Obama's, and I like to believe it can happen for any of the rest of us.