(drat! just remembered: we forgot the crown of thorns!)
and will again if you go there again.
"it's not what you say it's how you say it" is a cliche for a reason.
sisters saying things like this to a sister in the sister's thread, from the experiences, wisdom and knowledge of sisters ain't quite the same thing. nor do the things these ladies are sharing come from the same spirit as the "contradiction" thread where you started off calling them out. this is more of the "truth hurts" variety, rather than your "blame is on you" type stuff coming from "outside the team", so to speak.
but, of course, this will all go straight over your head.