Black Parenting : Single Parents: Do You Get Along W/ Your Child's Other Parent?

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  1. MsInterpret

    MsInterpret Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    If you are a single parent, do you get along with your child(ren)'s mother/father?

    I get along well with my daughter's father. It took some time to get to where him and I are at now. I think the reason that I have come to being able to get along with him is my appreciation towards him as not only being a good loving father to my daughter, but him as a man overall. He's never cursed at me, he's never raised his voice to me, he has a good head on his shoulders, he's educated, he's a good husband to his wife :p, he's a good father to my daughter and to his other children...I have to say that I am grateful and blessed, even though him I are no longer together.
    I had to rid myself of the bitterness that I had towards him. I had to accept the situation for what it really is. I could have had a deadbeat man to be the father of my child.
    Any man whom I marry and is going to be the father of my kid has to have the same standards as my daughter's father, and then some...
    I'm glad that I feel okay to communicate with him and can attend school conferences together, and other functions for my daughter.
    Our focus is on the child that we have together and that is our common goal.
     
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    I am glad and happy for the both of you. I hope that this happens more often in our community. Maybe one day my son's father and I can be on the same page as well.
     
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    You will...it may have to take one of you to step up and remove the bitterness...And doing so voluntarily.
    That means biting your tongue and learning to be at peace with the situation and having patience.

    And I'm not implying to accepting the other parent's BS, but remaining peaceful for the sake of the child, choosing your words wisely, picking and choosing your battles, not using the child as a pawn...And most importantly not letting your child see the both of you argue or talking poorly about the other parent to the child.

    But I don't know your situation but it will take time.
     
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    Sometimes you do things for the sake of the child. Even if the other is a grade A, a-hole. Sometimes it gets to the point where you cant let them get under your skin so you can do whats necessary





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    I do hope and pray others in your siuation are truly heeding your reality checks/wake up calls/etc.

    :toast:
     
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    It's for the kids' sakes so I do. I put all aside with the other person when it comes to the kids. Anything else and she can go on about herself, obviously as long as going on about herself does not include affecting the kids negatively.
     
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