Once I've made a decision to stay out a thread, I really try to stick with that. But here goes......
First, if you have a problem or what clarification on anything I say, ASK!
Again, you don't quote so I can address whatever you are saying directly, you are just making stupid insinuations, I hate that. If I have a problem or need people to clarify what they said, I QUOTE THE PARTS I WANT THEM ANSWER.
Second, I choose the words to accept. I am OK with heathen, darkie, nappy, and colored. I chose those words. OK? That does not mean or imply that I would be OK with any of the words you chose or associate them with. We both have that right to reject or accept what words we want. You could have chosen to associate the words I accept word the b-word, or sow, or pickaninny, jiggaboo or any other words to say 'well medusanegrita, if you like those words, maybe you are ok with these too' - and that does not mean that at all. I do not like or accept those words. Some whites have embraced the term 'redneck.' Many have embraced the term 'baby-momma' and 'baby-daddy' which is a term that urks me. I do not like the 'n-word' but some blacks have embraced it. I don't like calling men 'dogs' but that was popular among black men for a time (still popular with Randy Jackson). Some young black women have embraced calling their friends the 'b-word.' I do not embrace that word and never want anyone calling me a B. Yet all of those people would have a problem with the words I chose to accept... like darkie and nappy. My own particular friend would have more of a problem if i said 'what up darkie' than if I said 'what up ho?' I'm the opposite - I ain't no ho and don't prefer to be called a ho.
Are you understanding this?
You do not determine what words I should like or accept just because you like some and dislike others. Do you understand that? Some blacks on this forum prefer to be Africans over Americans... that is not me... but I will not persist to say that it is something they shouldn't call themselves because I feel they are far too removed from the place to consider themselves just 'Africans' and that is it. But if they are comfortable with it, so be it. I do not consider that 'offensive' like I do not consider nappy, darkie, colored, or heathen offensive. But that is ME. I let you live with whatever you want to accept, and you let me live with mine.
Furthermore, I can stand the heat just well, have more than proven that I can, I just don't like being insulted, especially when I have my child in my picture. They hold the mirror, not you, and having them up in my picture reminds more to be on better behavior so I do not invite animosity, hostility, or any type of agitation or incivility my way. And with you, I perceived that I did. That was was were my hurt lie - that I had apparently and inadvertently invited some slight my way and did not intend too. Also, my children's father is a black man, who I'm still happen to love very much. I still love black men and other 'colored' men in general and they will always be my preferred choice.
The last thing, I don't have selective amnesia but you apparently have selective reading skills. My desire call my 'American' over 'African' does mean I have a disassociation from Africa. Again, calling yourself African is what YOU want and prefer, and it is your right to prefer it. I have a different preference that should be respected just as well as you want yours respected. Here are my comments about Africa that you apparently missed, typed after some true-to-life African and his cohorts decided they didn't like my western or cultural stance on feminism and female clitorendectomy (aka FGM or female circumcision). Just for you - note the parts in colored bold about how i feel about Africa
And what I decide to let my intimate partner call me.... regardless of color or race.... is none of you darn business....unless you're the intimate partner. Hell I could have a black partner I allow to call me thangs that you would probably disapprove of, and you can have a partner calling you thangs I would disapprove of. But whatever goes on in the confines of your own friggin bedroom or household, is only up to the people who reside in it. SO STAY OUT OF MINE IF YOU AIN'T THERE and leave it out of this thread!
There's no need to ask you for clarification. You've made it clear where you stand on the issue of IR. So I don't need to guess, or ask you what you meant. If I wanted to get deeper understanding about your motives or who you are, I would cast the merindinlogun.or obi abata.
Its been pointed out to you on numerous occasions that you've contradicted yourself surrounding the issue IR so spare us the spin and endless ranting.
Yes, you've given Africa and Africans there props yet this has little to do with your mode of thinking. It was your identification with western culture as opposed to African. This what I mean about dis-asociation Its not simply about what I choose to call myself, its who I identify with. What it means and represents.
Africans by and large are concerned about the community, the collective well being of all the members in their respective societies. Including the mental, emotional physical, psychic and most importantly spiritual well being. Western culture offers little to nothing in the way of addressing these concerns. Although you claim you don't enbrace all of western culture you seem to select some of its elements that are often diametrically opposed to some of the major hallmarks of traditional african institutions. Your understanding of African traditions are woefully mis-informed and misguided . Your expressed opinions on circumcision spoke volumes.
So I don't need to try to define you, you've done a thorough job of doing it yourself
As far as insulting you or your daughter I made no mention of her, implicitly or explicitly. As a matter of fact,you and your child are quite beautiful. The point of the reference to children was to highlight the implications of having a child by a white man. Don't get it twisted, I don't care how many pink men you choose to spread your legs to, not in the least bit
However, if your feelings got hurt, maybe you need to think about someone else's before you suggest that they're no longer black because you disagree with them.
I don't have an interest in determining what words you use or don't use, where are you getting this from. I told you I said this to place a mirror in front of you What part of words have power don't you understand You can place whatever kind of spin on the word darkie you want to, about being ok with it etc. Know this, Africans know all to well that words often come back to haunt us. Words like darkie are established archetpyes that have no redeeming value, and if they were used to hurt your ancestors they're bound to come home to hurt you and yours in return. Its all about responsibility