Black People : Single black women being urged to date outside race

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By DeNeen L. Brown
Washington Post Staff Writer
Thursday, February 25, 2010

So many black women are single, she says, because they are stuck in the groove of a one-track song: sitting alone, waiting for that one "good" black man to come along and sweep them off their feet.

Waiting. Talking to girlfriends. Waiting. Going out alone. Waiting. Going to work. Waiting.

Waiting for a "good" black man, with the same education level to marry them.

Waiting. Even when they know the odds are stacked against them.

Single black women with college degrees outnumber single black men with college degrees almost 3 to 1 in major urban areas such as Washington, according to a 2008 population survey by the U.S. Census Bureau. Given those numbers, any economist would advise them to start looking elsewhere.

It's Econ 101 for the single, educated black woman.

"Black women are in market failure," says writer Karyn Langhorne Folan. "The solution is to find a new market for your commodity. And in this case, we are the commodity and the new market is men of other races."

Folan is the author of "Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions That Keep Black Women From Dating Out," published this month by Karen Hunter, an imprint of Pocket Books. In encouraging black women to date and marry interracially, the book has joined a broadening debate in recent years fueled by the blogosphere, the entertainment industry and comments by prominent African Americans.

Tyler Perry cast a Latin man as the great love interest of black actress Taraji P. Henson in his recent movie, "I Can Do Bad All by Myself"; in "The Princess and the Frog" featuring Disney's first black princess, the prince's indeterminate racial origins inspired commentary; and there was the 2006 movie "Something New," in which characters played by Simon Baker, who is white, and Sanaa Lathan, who is black, fall in love.

Whoopi Goldberg has talked about interracial dating on "The View," saying you date whom you are around. Oprah Winfrey has encouraged black women to explore "what is out there." While the discussion includes men of all races and ethnicities, the focus is primarily on overcoming taboos against dating white men.

By promoting interracial love for some black women, Folan explains that she is not suggesting that there aren't any good, single black men out there, or that every educated single black woman will not find an educated black mate. She is not bashing all black men or implying that all black women are aiming for the altar. The writer, mom and Harvard-educated lawyer says that she is just offering a reasonable solution to the shortage of available black men.

"Consider your options," she says. Expand your horizons. Stop listening to your girlfriends. Forget about the brothers calling you a sellout. Get over those old images of slavery and stop blaming every white man for sins perpetrated by others.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...html?wpisrc=nl_pmheadline&sid=ST2010022502182
 

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Thanks for sharing this one....it is all part of the game---the propaganda to separate the Black woman and Black man from each other. It's a very old and tired game.



By DeNeen L. Brown
Washington Post Staff Writer
Thursday, February 25, 2010

So many black women are single, she says, because they are stuck in the groove of a one-track song: sitting alone, waiting for that one "good" black man to come along and sweep them off their feet.

Waiting. Talking to girlfriends. Waiting. Going out alone. Waiting. Going to work. Waiting.

Waiting for a "good" black man, with the same education level to marry them.

Waiting. Even when they know the odds are stacked against them.

Single black women with college degrees outnumber single black men with college degrees almost 3 to 1 in major urban areas such as Washington, according to a 2008 population survey by the U.S. Census Bureau. Given those numbers, any economist would advise them to start looking elsewhere.

It's Econ 101 for the single, educated black woman.

"Black women are in market failure," says writer Karyn Langhorne Folan. "The solution is to find a new market for your commodity. And in this case, we are the commodity and the new market is men of other races."

Folan is the author of "Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions That Keep Black Women From Dating Out," published this month by Karen Hunter, an imprint of Pocket Books. In encouraging black women to date and marry interracially, the book has joined a broadening debate in recent years fueled by the blogosphere, the entertainment industry and comments by prominent African Americans.

Tyler Perry cast a Latin man as the great love interest of black actress Taraji P. Henson in his recent movie, "I Can Do Bad All by Myself"; in "The Princess and the Frog" featuring Disney's first black princess, the prince's indeterminate racial origins inspired commentary; and there was the 2006 movie "Something New," in which characters played by Simon Baker, who is white, and Sanaa Lathan, who is black, fall in love.

Whoopi Goldberg has talked about interracial dating on "The View," saying you date whom you are around. Oprah Winfrey has encouraged black women to explore "what is out there." While the discussion includes men of all races and ethnicities, the focus is primarily on overcoming taboos against dating white men.

By promoting interracial love for some black women, Folan explains that she is not suggesting that there aren't any good, single black men out there, or that every educated single black woman will not find an educated black mate. She is not bashing all black men or implying that all black women are aiming for the altar. The writer, mom and Harvard-educated lawyer says that she is just offering a reasonable solution to the shortage of available black men.

"Consider your options," she says. Expand your horizons. Stop listening to your girlfriends. Forget about the brothers calling you a sellout. Get over those old images of slavery and stop blaming every white man for sins perpetrated by others.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dy...html?wpisrc=nl_pmheadline&sid=ST2010022502182
 

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With each passing day interracial promotion and propaganda continues to become more aggressive as well as more common place. Here we have single black women being urged to date outside their race. Similar topics can be found in the UK and other parts of Europe. Even as far as Russia the difficulty of black women to find a "good black man" has become a popular topic. As I prepared to post this article on Destee.com, I noticed that an old thread I created some years back, "The African-American Missionary" has resurfaced:

http://destee.com/forums/showthread.php?t=32453

The timing could not be better as this Washington Post article uses the same tactics and methods which were warned about in this old thread. That this article is nothing more than racist and genocidal propaganda should not be subject to much debate: If people have the freedom to date who they wish, then why do black women have to be "urged" or "pushed" to date outside of their race? Particularly when no other women are being encouraged to do the same?

Logical people should ask themselves who is really pushing for this trend and what is their ultimate goal? Who benefits from this promotion? How does every random black woman (or black man) involved with a white person get to tell their story of true "interracial" love, when happy black couples aren't afforded the same opportunity? I would be more than willing to tell my story. It would go something like this:

A college educated black man meets a college educated black woman, who is visiting America for the 1st time on vacation. The two strike up a conversation: The black man is intoxicated by the black woman's beautiful smile...her sweetness and genuine warmth. The black woman is impressed by the black man's intelligence and kindness towards her. Within 6 months the two are dating. Within a year the two are married (a marriage which has lasted 10 years, produced 2 children, and 0 drama).

Again I wonder why isn't this story given a 4 page article in the Washington Times or any other media vehicle? Probably because this tale would expose holes in the IR propaganda machine. Especially damaging would be the revelation that the black woman in this case was born and raised in Europe with nothing but white men for dating prospects. However she managed to come to America and found a suitable black man on her very 1st day in the country (so much for the myth that a good black man is hard to find).

It could be argued that maybe the couple in this story are not important enough to write about. However the reality is the woman in the story happens to occupy an important international relations position. One which frequently has her featured in newspapers, magazines, and TV. Yet none of the journalist who write about her are interested in her family life...at least not when they find out she is married to a black man, and not the European which they initially assume she's with.

Apparently black men and women loving each other just doesn't make for an interesting story. However black men and women loving each other is essential to our continued prosperity as a community as well as our survival as a people. Those who appreciate black men and women loving each other have a responsibility to promote and celebrate black love just as aggressively as interracial bliss is being promoted.
 

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