Black Relationships : Should you be married and still clubbin'???

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  1. kente417mojo

    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hey people, do you think there is anything wrong with being married, but still going to clubs with friends who aren't married. Let's hear it. We need to hear from everyone (Men and Women).
     
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    As a married man, I believe the best way to stay faithful is to not put yourself in a situation where you will be tempted. Therefore, I don't think it is a good idea to be hanging out with my boys at the club, or in a strip bar (and Vice Versa for the ladies). It is better to be safe than sorry.
     
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    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    True, true. I agree. If you go to a place where there are a lot of temptations....one day they might grab hold of you. Thank you for the comment.
     
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    Usually the person who still desires to club even after marriage seems to think they are missing out on something. I know when I've run into married men in the club I often hear them make comments like..."yeah, I'm not missing anything..." but yet something made them go out to make sure. If you really wanted to go to the club for the purpose it served...to dance and hear music, why not take your wife with you? Why not have your wife and her friends meet you out separately? Why do some people wait until they are married to start wanting to hang out in clubs with their friends?

    Married people should develop other outsources for interacting with people, like bowling, golf, tennis, or other group activities. JMO.

    I personally don't see the need to go out more than 3 times a year and I'm single. If I were married, the same standard would apply...about 3 times a year. I do frequent jazz/blues clubs, but the atmosphere is drastically different than the average night club.
     
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    i feel male / female shouldn't bounce around in clubs
    toasting it up with the boys or the girls watching
    some stripper i agree with Panafrica &carriemonet
    made tsome great points having fun can be done at home
    or other nice places or outings ....just my view on it
    never liked a club hopper u seeking or chasing !!!
     
  6. kente417mojo

    kente417mojo Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thanks for all the good points. I agree with them all. I don't think it's a good idea to do that either. I think there are better ways to enjoy life than trying to act like you're single after you've tied the knot and supposedly commited yourself to someone you love. Thank you for the comments.
     
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    I'm not married (or in a realtionship) but I dont think there is anything wrong with going to clubs. I think everyone needs their alone time, and as long as I'm with my friends they aren't going to let me do anything I'm going to regreat. I'm not a big club hoper, but I like to go on occasion. I would trust my man not to do anything to ruin the relationship, and I would hope that he would trust me in the same way.
     
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    Personally I think
    if your married why would you want to go clubbing?
    And if you do go why with your boys/girls?
    Why not together….better yet go to the movies
    I mean its better things to do then go to the club
    Its nothing but temptation out there
    and then comes the drama

    i dont think its the trust thing ppl love to gossip
    well why she out or why he out and he/she married
    and if someone see you talking/dancing there goes the rumors
    so why walk into drama? its better things to do.

    just my view
    Angel
    :angel1:
     
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    Exactly, why set yourself up to slip. Clubs are full of nothing but temptation with people looking to take someone home. That's all. I have nothing against them, but if you're married why would you need to grind up against someone other than your spouse? :yo:
     
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    Question rennee, how can you be alone or have time alone when you in a club with other people, Even if your friends do discourage you from gettin into trouble. Just a thought
     
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