Black Relationships : Should Women Ask For Help!!!!!!!!!

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  1. beautifulblkw

    beautifulblkw Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Peace My Queens and Kings
    I had a conversation with a friend recently. We talked about Men helping women while dating. He feels that If a women needs help she should ask. I feel that weather she asks or not if you know she is in a bind and you have the means to help, you should do so.




    Just wanted to know what do you think?
     
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    does this work both ways?
     
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    Helio!!

    I believe we all should help one another. Giving generates blessings and we all should have that "what if" question present itself in our minds. Ya know, "what if that was me?" I would want some one to help me if I was in her/his position!
     
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    yes it does work both ways. However I'm asking this for a reason.
    in the courting world men and women meet and go out all the time. what happens when the women is in a situation and would benefit from some emotion spiritual and/or financial help does she need to ask and if she doesn't would it be safe to assume that she doesn't need the help. should he as A Man and potential provider inquire about what he can do......Remember he knows whats going on their building.
     
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    heck no. A potential provider is not a provider.. hahaha.. in fact, I dont buy this whole idea of being provided for.. for nothin'.. just for being a woman? no both ways about it, as you know if a man you were dating asked for help you'd likely run a mile.

    Now.. in a 'relationship'.. that is something else.. in which case I'd expect both to know and understand the hardships of the other.. thus offer.. without guile.. so help/support each other.
     
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    i'll give her some help if she will give me some.....
     
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    what I've found thus far in my experiences

    is that as long as I am "helping myself"... I am offered help..

    and as long as I am helping when I have the ability it is returned...

    I guess I don't look for "potential providers"...

    I look for potential "partners".......

    IMO there is a difference....

    partners give and take... when one's weak the other strong and vice versa....

    the dating game.. courting process I would say is just a time to really get to know someone...
     
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