Black Relationships : should u ....

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  1. daroc

    daroc Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    if ur future spouse requests you to cut off other friends or "threats" should you? would you" and if so why?
     
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    Glad to see you back little sister!

    Absolutely not sister Daroc!!! Anyone who loves you will respect your friendships, and the person you were before you met them. Actually men who attempt to isolate their girlfriends from others, is the sign of a potential abuser! The following is a list of warnings signs from a brochure from the Women's Crisis Services about domestic violence:

    Does someone you love?

    -Criticize you harshly, call you names or humilate you?

    -Blame you when things go wrong?

    -Prevent you from getting or keeping a job. Control your access to money or refuse you access to family?

    -Try to isolate or prevent you from seeing others?

    -Have an explosive temper, often throwing things and punching walls?

    -Grab, push, slap or punch you or use other forms of physical violence against you?

    -Threaten to grab, push, slap or punch you?

    -Prevent you from saying what you think and feel?

    -Pressure you to participate in unwanted sexual activity?

    -Intimidate you through looks or actions, destroy your property?

    -Forced you to drop criminal charges, or made you participate in an illegal activity?

    Any one of these is reason to leave a man sister Daroc! I encourage you not to put yourself in a dangerous relationship!
     
  3. daroc

    daroc Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    im glad u missed me pan...
    but naw.. its not me.... not even on the guys part...
    here's the situation:a release

    if someone is about to get married and have past friends/lovers- and the friendship meant something- should they continue it despite their future spouse approval?
     
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    with understand yes but if it's best for both then maybe one should let go !
    friendship & marriage can mix with respectable bodies but if there is a doubt
    and the love is real then one should honor it and let it be wise and friendship
    from afar but a true friend will understand and so will one's mate of such friendship
    not by force or demand but from communication and understanding
    if the mate feel threaten by this friendship then one has doubt about there true love
    and bond to it's soulmate and lack of trust , to trust also say friendship is ok to a
    degree that's respectable , togetherness is the key that honors and trust of one's
    soulmate , it really depend on the relationship and how it was built or molded to
    this marriage stage and what each feel from friendship and closeness
    i think we all view it differently on different reason but if a threat is made this not love
    but a controller some friends worth become more value then one's mate so NO
    don't cut a true friend out your life .
     
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    thanks rich...well said... very needed
     
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    Okay I misunderstood (don't want anyone mistreating my little sister)! Well ex-boyfriends is another story. It isn't a good idea to have your ex hanging around when you are in another relationship. Although some people remain friends after their romantic relationship ends! However if you want the new relationship to blossom, you might not want to be "close" friends.......
     
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