Black Relationships : Should Polygamous Marriages Be Reinstated?

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Who can forget that episode of "Good Times" when Thelma almost moved away to Africa with a Brotha named "Ebay" - the only thing that stopped her was the idea that Ebay's traditional custom allowed him to have several wives.

A Westernized Afro-American Woman just won't go for a deal like that one. Or so they say.

Although Polygamy was outlawed in this country in 1890, American Males still continue to have very Polygamous relationships. In secret of course. Should some Women be kept in a thick fog of deception just because they cannot accept the obvious? Women outnumber Men on this planet, in gross numbers. And as long as Men are ushered into activities that warrant their death and distruction- Women will continue to outnumber us.

Modern Researchers might argue that Humans in their very nature as mammals, have never been monogamous. I would add to argument that Man, while he physically an Animal, has been striving to be much more than just a mammal spiritually.

We can surely look out into our own communities and see the large bodies of very lonely Black Women who will leave this Earth never having any real long term commitments with a Male. So far, there have been only a few options for these females. Wait patiently, take whatever comes. Same Gender Relations. Or save the coochie for Jesus.

What if we have it all wrong? True indeed not everyone is here on this planet to mate, some of us are of a higher Spiritual order and should not be lowered to be just sexually adaptable. But how did our Ancestors deal with their vast number of Women compared to the small number of men? We credit our African Ancestors for everything great and powerful, but when it comes down to that....the room goes silent.

First of all, we might be looking at the issue with the wrong brains. Some of us are too sexually obsessed or oppressed due to European Imperialism for an open polygamous marriage to work. Even now, the Sistahs reading this might be having flashbacks of Snoop Dogg with two Women at either side in dog chains. For that reason I believe Men should not be the ones with total control over the construction of a polygamous marriage. It should be arranged only by, as the Chinese would call her- "Big Mother." She is the head of all the wives in the Home.

As it stands Men should not be in control of the sexual exploits of submissive Women either. "Pimpin" as it is so commonly known. Women should be the ones doing so.

If prostitution is a fact of Life, then these same "Big Mothers" should be the females running those empires. Not lust crazy, cross-eyed dimwits who dropped out of Kindergarten to start Escort Services. Forgive me, it seems that most of what I see here in Atlanta. I would call Atlanta a map of Black America. What I find interesting, is because the "Strip-Club Culture" is so big here, allot of Black Men treat every woman that crosses their path, as if she is a stripper, or a female with a price. I am proud to say not all Black Men think like them. I will say that those kind of Brothas are not the ones worth cloning.

Since polygamous marriages would most likely result in a house full of Children- Black Women would have to learn to choose their Co-wives, as well as there Husbands more wisely. There can only be one Queen. And if we cannot learn to respect our Women as more than sexual attachments, there is no hope for monogamy either.

Not all Women are comfortable with sharing their Man. I know I bought up the idea of a Co-Wife before to my Woman, and she looked at me like...Brothas, you know that look. I will say that having one Black Woman in the house is more than enough for me. But I know allot of Brothas like variety, and I respect that. I don't look down at other Men because they want more than one Woman, I just ask for those Brothas to be African Gentlemen, because we are the best the planet has to offer.

So, Should Polygamous Marriages Be Reinstated? Would it help us or deepen the hurt our Sistahs already experience? Most of all, will it keep Daddy in the house so he can be a loving Father and provider? Will it help to end Poverty conditions since there will be more working people in one home to help provide for and manage the offspring? Will it end the deception since most Men are getting their polygamy on anyway?

I pass the mic....

Peace & Love to my Destee Fam!
 
yes they should, since monogmy is one of the biggest issues these days... y not allow the true good men to be good to more than one woman.... as slim as the pikins theese days.... y not....
women... take more than one man too... especially if you havent found all u need ans want in one!:bowdown: :bowdown:
 

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